Tag: trauma of relinquishment
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Celebrating Secrets and Sadness
It’s early morning, I’ve only the birds for company for a few more hours. Until my favourite person wakes up. Across the world in the place I was born it’s already early afternoon on my birthday. Birthdays are a strange, strange day for adoptees. The days preceding it are pensive and sad for completely different…
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Inner Work for Adoptees
One of the highlights in travelling to the Netherlands last month was to finally meet in person Hilbrand Westra, a fellow intercountry adoptee born in South Korea and adopted to the Netherlands, whom I have liaised and worked with since the beginning of ICAV. Not only did I get to meet him in person, share…
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Trauma Triggers
Why do some adoptees need to be on the defensive, overly criticizing, put each other down, and posture themselves as aggressors? I understand and respect that we all have varied opinions, thoughts, and information on a very complex subject. We all have unique stories and ideas to share. I think people do this because their…
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My Game Changer
An intercountry adoptee shares about their use of magic mushroom as an alternate mode of therapy, aiming to delve deeper into the trauma underlying adoption.
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Finding the Right Therapy as an Adoptee
Lynelle shares what she learnt from therapy and how to find a good fit.
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Anxiety Triggers
I had my first panic attack almost fifteen years ago. I had just found out that my then partner was pregnant. As happy as I was for her and us that we were having a baby, something inside of me which I had suppressed for my whole life, without being aware of until then, was…
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Who Am I?
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in Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Korea, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, USAJayme questions who he is as an intercountry adoptee from Sth Korea.
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Adoptee Anger
Lynelle shares about adoptee anger, how it connects to abandonment feelings, grief, loss and sadness; the best response is to listen and validate our feelings
