Category: Adoptee Anger

From Silence to Self: An Adoptee’s Song

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Cao shares a song written across decades, exploring search, grief, identity, and healing after loss, silence, and self-acceptance.

Intercountry adoptees taking legal action and reclaiming our rights

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Intercountry adoptees worldwide are taking legal action to expose illegal adoptions, demand truth, and push for justice, accountability, and human rights reform.

Abandoned: its meaning and context

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Andrea Kay helps us uncover the truth beyond the label 'abandoned' with DNA searching—bringing hope and rediscovery to Ethiopian adoptees and their families.

Self Reflections

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Hannah reflects as a Russian Asian intercountry adoptee on identity, belonging, loss, and the emotional complexities of adoption.

Finding Myself and a Purpose

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Mike grew up in New Zealand, adopted from Hong Kong. He struggled as a young child, found his place in the world, and now gives back, to others like him.

What happens after an adoption investigation?

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Lisa shares about the challenges and realities adoptees face after national adoption inquiries and public debates becoming toxic.

Racial Abuse & Hatred

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Jonti, adopted from Sri Lanka to Australia shares about racial hatred and abuse and how it impacts.

Letter to Adoptee Youth

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Jonti reflects, looking back over what has shaped his life as an adoptee and how he's ended up incarcerated, in prison, for a serious crime.

The most invisible adoptees

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Lynelle raises awareness of those intercountry adoptees who are incarcerated, an unheard voice.

Black Lotus

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Jonas Haid shares his artwork Black Lotus created and inspired by his own story of adoption from Sth Korea to Germany.

Addressing Sexual Abuse in Intercountry Adoption

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ICAVs newest Perspective Paper on Sexual Abuse experiences of intercountry adoptees helping to elevate their voices and advocate for much needed supports.

What do I want from my adoptive parents?

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Lynelle shares what she would have wanted from her adoptive parents in response to the fraud and human rights abuses in her adoption.

A formal apology for an illegal intercountry adoption

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A historic day in Guatemala with an apology to a family who were torn apart by illegal intercountry adoption. English translation provided.

Suicide Amongst Adoptees

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Hilbrand shares about the trauma in relinquishment and adoption and the connection with suicide amongst adoptees.

Being Illegally Adopted and a Forced Reunion

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Aimee shares about her illegal adoption from Taiwan and being forced into reunion through media involvement and her first mother and adoptive parent wishes.

The Feeling of Not Belonging Anywhere

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Michelle shares the complexities as an intercountry adoptee and the ongoing feeling of not belonging and how this underlies her many medical diagnoses.

Finding Peace after Adoption

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Jonas shares on the complexities of being an intercountry adoptee, ending up on the streets at age 13 and getting his life back as an adult to find his peace.

Bolivian Adoptee Anthology Book Review

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Lynelle provides a review of the Bolivian adoptee anthology Communal Histories of Displacement and Adoption by the Network of Bolivian Adoptees

Participating in The Colour of Difference: Long Term Outcomes

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Lynelle shares how participating in PARCs book project to produce The Colour of Difference changed her life and began the adoptee network InterCountry Adoptee Voices.

What’s the Future of Intercountry Adoption?

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Presentation by Lynelle Long at the CHIP Webinar on 18 Feb 2022 on the topic: Respecting the Child's Right to Identity in Intercountry Adoption

Toxicity and Grief

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by Dan R Moen, adopted from the Philippines to the USA. Part three of this series focuses on toxicity and its impact with grief. The black vine-like shapes represent toxicity and how it manifests itself within and around all of us. It’s depicted as an uncontrollable beast and has completely engulfed an individual. It grows …

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Cancelling My Adoption

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Netra Sommer is adopted from India to Denmark and endured abuse in her adoption and talks about undoing her adoption and the lengthy process to reclaim herself.

Dear Dad, You are Still Racist

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Mae adopted from Haiti shares the complexities of being trafficked and having a racist dad

The Legacy and Impacts of Abuse in Adoption

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Lynelle's part 2 of 3 on Sexual Abuse within Adoption.