At ICAV, we invited members to share during National Adoption Awareness Month what they would like the public to know. Here’s another of what some of our members are happy to share to the public.
I am adopted from Spain. Terrible experience. I hope any family adopting in America now receives an independent thorough home study, including military.
As a retired social worker I have approved quite a few adoptions. I am a lion for kids, so I know they were in very bad unrepairable situations and those families were golden.
There is absolutely a time and place for adoption, in my opinion. Also, shame on our country for allowing Mexican children to be stolen!
by Jesse Lassandro
The loneliness that comes from the separation of our culture and family creates a pain so unique that some survive and others get torn apart. Through awareness, education, and understanding, this can change.
In my own experience not knowing my identity was a huge problem that held me back from making healthy decisions when it came to choosing friends and making big life choices. That pain always reminded me, I was never good enough.
It wasn’t until I met my birth family that I felt a connection to something that was my own and I felt something inside me heal.
I’m not opposed to adoption but adopting is a big undertaking that will come with trauma so if you want to be an adoptive parent and reading this, don’t lie to yourself. If you’re not ready then wait. For any adoptee reading this, I feel your pain and please know you’re not alone.
by J Aucayse