Lyla shares an awesome way her adoptive parents assisted her with abandonment fears - a rational fear all adoptees have borne out of losing their first family.
Tag: Impacts of Relinquishment
Review of Reckoning with The Primal Wound
Lynelle provides thoughts after watching Rebecca's Sansom's documentary Reckoning with the Primal Wound, an adoptee led film on the impacts of our separation.
An Accounting from One Adoptee
Mary shares her journey of coming to terms with being adopted, the impacts, the legacy, and how she moves forward to bring together voices of Greek adoptees.
Tears of Trauma
CS Massey shares the artwork created around making visible the impacts of loss and relinquishment.
Grief for Mother Lasts Forever
by Melanie Kleintz adopted from Peru to Germany. Between 24 December 2020 and 1 January 2021, a total of 6 adoptees from Europe took their own lives, a Black Week in Europe for adoptees. The number of unreported cases is definitely higher. All could not clarify their origins, their pain was too strong, and they …
어머니 (Mother)
Michelle Piper shares the grief and loss of relinquishment and adoption, the multitude of questions, the lifelong emotional journey.
Deep Truths
Exploring an adoptee's deep trauma via psilocybin.
We can be our own Heroes
Bina shares about the after effects of losing fellow adoptees to suicide, how we can work together to overcome the things that death can trigger.
I Want My Brothers Back
Erika shares the complications after reunion with her biological siblings.
when mothers and fathers run like water, cuando madres y padres corre como el agua
when mothers and fathers run like water
The Importance of Including Those Most Impacted in Policy Discussions
Why it's important to include the triad in policy forums.
Forget Me Not: Review
Lynelle reviews Forget Me Not, a documentary about Sth Korean mothers.
What is in our “Best Interests” as Intercountry Adopted People?
I find it interesting to ponder why the concept Best Interests of the Child in intercountry adoption is discussed and decisions made without substantial research on the long term outcomes in intercountry adoption. When I say long term, I mean decades to show how intercountry adoption impacts us through the various stages of life. Most …
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Celebrating Secrets and Sadness
Adoptee birthdays are a day of celebrating secrets and sadness, a complex day of emotions reminding us we are not with the ones who birthed us.
Finding the Right Therapy as an Adoptee
Lynelle shares what she learnt from therapy and how to find a good fit.
Dear Belonging,
Perhaps to some, You are a dear friend and a faithful companion. To others, You are found in spurts and moments, and still to others, You are an elusive dream in their nightmares. To me, You are a far off figure standing still in the distance. Throughout the years, I have caught the sparkle in …
The Other Half Left Behind
- Many adoptees were sent to orphanages before they were adopted and many do not remember the experiences they had before being sent to their forever homes. At one time, we adoptees may have begun the same journey in life as one of the millions of orphans placed in orphanages. However, a choice made by …