Juliette shares on what's not helpful - we just need to be respectfully heard!
Author: juliettevia
You Can’t Counsel Yourself into Belonging
Juliette shares her thoughts after watching Red Table Talk episode featuring Angela Tucker, transracial adoptee.
The King
When young, many of us adoptees mimic what we know adults want us to say.
The Cycle of Harm in Celebrity Adoptions
Adoption is not heroism. It does not fight poverty, disease nor the root causes of inequality. Adoption doesn't even raise awareness about the real causes of poverty, inequality, parent-child separations, disease or social immobility. Instead it creates idolatry of those who look to adoption in a world which stigmatises infertility, disease, poverty and poor access …
Celebrating Secrets and Sadness
Adoptee birthdays are a day of celebrating secrets and sadness, a complex day of emotions reminding us we are not with the ones who birthed us.
Not My Adopted Child!
If my mum read my posts about adoption, she'd think, "Not Juliette, not my daughter!" I've done the emotional work because I know my parents haven't and never will. Brexit tore my family apart when my parents voted and arguments revealed just how little they understood they had an Asian immigrant daughter. I struggled and …
Adoptee Body Keeps Score
(Also shared at Musings of a Birthmom.) As an intercountry adoptee from Malaysia to the UK, I am still so marginalised that it took a lot of anger at the age of 44 to motivate me to claim my own ethnicity. Yet, when I spoke out loud with frustration, confusion and anger, "I am an …