Mary shares how Adoption Day anniversary can trigger feelings of grief and loss that pervade her life; coming to terms with it, making the most of life now.
Category: Adoptee vulnerability
Adoption: Not a Default Setting
Mary Cardaras, Greek intercountry adoptee in the USA, critically examines Amy Conley Barrett's assumption that adoption is a default to abortion.
Grieving for the Child of the Past
Dan R Moen, Filipino adoptee and talented artist shares a 3 part series of paintings depicting the internal struggles an intercountry adoptee traverses.
Healing as a Transracial Adoptee
Kamina shares her pathway of finding healing as an adoptee through many methods and routes, eventually discovering plant medicines which have proven successful.
Relinquishment, Adoption and Grief
Bina shares about the loss that goes unrecognised in adoption during November Adoption Awareness Month and highlights the necessity of support for grieving.
Korea’s Revised Adoption Process
Jayme Hansen applauds South Korea's revised adoption process more aligned with Hague Convention guidelines, creating more oversight of vulnerable children.
Lifelong Impacts of Identity Loss
Lynelle shares about the impact of identity loss in intercountry adoption, including the views of other adoptees to help build a more in-depth understanding.
We Need To Talk About Adoptee Suicide, Now
Lina shares part 2 of her discussion into adoptee suicide - something we must talk about if we are going to provide a more supportive space.
The Aloneness of Motherloss
Mila Konomos articulates the aloneness of mother loss, the grief and loss an adoptee lives due to being separated at birth.
Cancelling My Adoption
Netra Sommer is adopted from India to Denmark and endured abuse in her adoption and talks about undoing her adoption and the lengthy process to reclaim herself.
Adoptee Dualities
Abby explores the complex dualities adoptees face, from identity and family connections to cultural struggles, highlighting the emotional toll of navigating adoption experiences.
Dear Dad, You are Still Racist
Mae adopted from Haiti shares the complexities of being trafficked and having a racist dad
Who Am I?
Vietnamese adoptee TLB shares about living with disability, being rehomed, and loss.
The Legacy and Impacts of Abuse in Adoption
Lynelle's part 2 of 3 on Sexual Abuse within Adoption.
Questioning
Abby reflects on curiosity, identity, trauma, and the importance of questioning societal norms and systems, while seeking healing and understanding.
I Don’t See Colour!
ICAV Blogger Collaborative Series #2 addressing adoption colour blindness.
Brokenness in Adoption
Huang Feng Ying shares artwork and thoughts about being adopted from China.
Grieving Mother
Joey is adopted from China to the USA and writes about his grief for his first mother.
Identity, Lost & Found
Abby reflects on reclaiming her Latina identity after growing up in a white Jewish family, highlighting the impact of adoption practices on self-worth and cultural connection.
Digging in the Dirt
Abby emphasizes the importance of post-adoption services for healing adoption trauma, highlighting the need for community support, therapy, and resources to thrive.
When Pain and Loss is Too Much
Indian adoptee Pooja shares the challenges of her complex life being adopted to Australia.
My Game Changer
An intercountry adoptee shares about their use of magic mushroom as an alternate mode of therapy, aiming to delve deeper into the trauma underlying adoption.
The Push-Pull Dance in Adoptee Relationships
Lynelle discusses the difficulties in relationships as an intercountry adoptee and why is love so difficult: attachment, bonding, connection and adoption.
Expectations of Gratitude in Adoption
Lynelle shares about the burden of being expected to be grateful in being adopted.