Category: Gratitude in Adoption

Integrating the Parts in Adoption

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Bina shares about the fragmentation adoptees endure in order to survive and the grief work we must do to reintegrate our dual selves.

Korea’s Revised Adoption Process

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Jayme Hansen applauds South Korea's revised adoption process more aligned with Hague Convention guidelines, creating more oversight of vulnerable children.

From Tokenism to Social Justice

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Marie Gardom shares how we can move from Tokenism to Social Justice in adoption. Inclusion of adoptees needs to recognise adoptees as the experts of our experience.

Family thoughts during this time of Year

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Bina writes about the complexities of holiday times for adoptees.

Adoptee Dualities

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Abby explores the complex dualities adoptees face, from identity and family connections to cultural struggles, highlighting the emotional toll of navigating adoption experiences.

Who Am I?

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Vietnamese adoptee TLB shares about living with disability, being rehomed, and loss.

Can Intercountry Adoption be Ethical? Does it do Good?

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Are you doing good by intercountry adopting?

Adopted as Infants

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ICAV Blogger Collaborative Series #1 for NAAM 2019

Identity, Lost & Found

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee vulnerability, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoptive parents, Beauty in Diversity, Colombia, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Diversity in Adoption, Family Preservation, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Peer Support, Post Adoption Support, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Return to Birth Country, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, USA2 Comments

Abby reflects on reclaiming her Latina identity after growing up in a white Jewish family, highlighting the impact of adoption practices on self-worth and cultural connection.

Not Helpful

On By julietteviaIn Adjustment and Transition, Complexities in Adoption, Finding biological mother, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Holidays are tough for adoptees, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Origins Search, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Relationships Struggles, reunion trauma, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption3 Comments

Juliette shares on what's not helpful - we just need to be respectfully heard!

But He’s Not Your Father!

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee Anger, adoptee emotional burden, Biological Connections Matter, Birth mother choices, Complexities in Adoption, Finding biological father, first family separation, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Origins Search, right to identity, Sweden, Trauma in Adoption6 Comments

Sarah Mårtensson shares the complexities of being in reunion with her Muslim bio father.

I May Not Remember, But I’ll Never Forget

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Kev Minh, Vietnamese American adoptee shares.

What is in our “Best Interests” as Intercountry Adopted People?

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A collection of adoptee thoughts on "Best Interests of the Child" should mean.

Not My Adopted Child!

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Juliette shares about how adoptive parents can't see the reality of their own adopted child.

Dear Belonging,

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Joey Beyer shares his questions and thoughts as a Chinese intercountry adoptee.

What If

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Joey shares on the What If's of being adopted.

Expectations of Gratitude in Adoption

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Lynelle shares about the burden of being expected to be grateful in being adopted.

Vulnerable children are not blank slates

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Lynelle critically examines the gains from including adult intercountry adoptees in policy discussions and shares Joey's story, a male Chinese adoptee.

Twins separated by Adoption

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Lynelle writes critically about the intercountry adoption processes that knowingly separate biological twins.

Colombian Intercountry Adoptee Anthology

On By lynellelongIn Abandonment and Rejection, Abuse in Adoption, Adjustment and Transition, Adoptee Anger, Adoptee Birthdays, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Book, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Alcohol and drug addiction, Colombia, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Diversity in Adoption, DNA Searching, Eating Disorder and Adoption, Family Preservation, Forced separation, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Illegal Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Older Age Adoptions, Origins Search, Poetry by Adoptees, Politics of Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Suicide, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

The first Colombian intercountry adoptee anthology that shares the many complexities of being adopted from Colombia, edited and compiled by Abby Forero-Hilty.