Category: Listen to Adoptees

Integrating the Parts in Adoption

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Bina shares about the fragmentation adoptees endure in order to survive and the grief work we must do to reintegrate our dual selves.

Family thoughts during this time of Year

On By Guest BloggerIn Abandonment and Rejection, Adoptee Intimate Relationships, Adoptee vulnerability, adoption and silence, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Breakdown / Failure, adoption estrangement, Adoption questions, Aloneness, Isolation, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Holidays are tough for adoptees, Importance of Connections to Origins, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Motherloss, Not Knowing in Adoption, Peer support, Relationships Struggles, Sense of Belonging, Suicide, Survival mechanisms, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

Bina writes about the complexities of holiday times for adoptees.

Wearing Your Fate

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption connections to surrogacy, adoption conversations, Biological Connections Matter, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Family Preservation, Importance of Connections to Origins, India, Is adoption the best option, Listen to Adoptees, Politics of Adoption, right to identity, Rights in Adoption, The Netherlands1 Comment

Bina shares on what can be learned from adoption and surrogacy.

What’s in a Name? Identity, Respect, Ownership?

On By lynellelongIn Adoptee Anger, Adoptee Names, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Complexities in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Sense of Belonging4 Comments

ICAV members share their thoughts on Changing Names at Adoption

Alternatives to Adoption?

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee Activism, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption conversations, Adoption Conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoption policy, adoption reform, Alternatives to Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Is adoption the best option, Listen to Adoptees, Politics of Adoption, Rights in Adoption, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption1 Comment

ICAV Blogger Collaborative Series #3

Not Helpful

On By julietteviaIn Adjustment and Transition, Complexities in Adoption, Finding biological mother, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Holidays are tough for adoptees, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Origins Search, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Relationships Struggles, reunion trauma, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption3 Comments

Juliette shares on what's not helpful - we just need to be respectfully heard!

But He’s Not Your Father!

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee Anger, adoptee emotional burden, Biological Connections Matter, Birth mother choices, Complexities in Adoption, Finding biological father, first family separation, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Origins Search, right to identity, Sweden, Trauma in Adoption6 Comments

Sarah Mårtensson shares the complexities of being in reunion with her Muslim bio father.

You Can’t Counsel Yourself into Belonging

On By julietteviaIn adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Conversations, adoption conversations, Adoption questions, Aloneness, Isolation, Biological Connections Matter, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, denial gaslighting minimisation by others, Difficult discussions in adoption, Diversity in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Peer support, Politics of Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption4 Comments

Juliette shares her thoughts after watching Red Table Talk episode featuring Angela Tucker, transracial adoptee.

What is in our “Best Interests” as Intercountry Adopted People?

On By lynellelongIn 1993 Hague Convention, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption and power imbalance, adoption conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoption policy, Adoption questions, adoption reform, adoptive family dialogue, Biological Connections Matter, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Intercultural struggles, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Not Knowing in Adoption, Older Age Adoptions, Peer support, Politics of Adoption, Post Adoption Support, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Return to Birth Country, Return to Birth Country, Rights in Adoption, Search and Reunion in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

A collection of adoptee thoughts on "Best Interests of the Child" should mean.

Not My Adopted Child!

On By julietteviaIn Abandonment and Rejection, Adjustment and Transition, Adoptee Anger, adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee Intimate Relationships, Adoptee Support, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Breakdown / Failure, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption questions, adoptive parent defensiveness, adoptive parent reflection, adoptive parent responsibility, Biological Connections Matter, Colourblindness in adoption, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, denial gaslighting minimisation by others, Difficult discussions in adoption, Exploring adoptive parent journey, Finding biological mother, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Intercultural struggles, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Malaysia, Not Knowing in Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Return to Birth Country, reunion trauma, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, UK9 Comments

Juliette shares about how adoptive parents can't see the reality of their own adopted child.

Adoptee Body Keeps Score

On By julietteviaIn adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption questions, Aloneness, Isolation, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Not Knowing in Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

Juliette Lam shares about the adoptee experience of our body knowing the truth of our traumas.