Category: Relationships Struggles

We can be our own Heroes

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Bina shares about the after effects of losing fellow adoptees to suicide, how we can work together to overcome the things that death can trigger.

Family thoughts during this time of Year

On By Guest BloggerIn Abandonment and Rejection, Adoptee Intimate Relationships, Adoptee vulnerability, adoption and silence, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Breakdown / Failure, adoption estrangement, Adoption questions, Aloneness, Isolation, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Holidays are tough for adoptees, Importance of Connections to Origins, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Motherloss, Not Knowing in Adoption, Peer support, Relationships Struggles, Sense of Belonging, Suicide, Survival mechanisms, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

Bina writes about the complexities of holiday times for adoptees.

Show Love

On By Guest BloggerIn Adjustment and Transition, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, Adoption questions, Aloneness, Isolation, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Grief and Loss, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Not Knowing in Adoption, Relationships Struggles, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, Vietnam3 Comments

Kev Minh shares about love as a transracial intercountry adoptee.

Not Helpful

On By julietteviaIn Adjustment and Transition, Complexities in Adoption, Finding biological mother, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Holidays are tough for adoptees, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Origins Search, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Relationships Struggles, reunion trauma, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption3 Comments

Juliette shares on what's not helpful - we just need to be respectfully heard!

What is in our “Best Interests” as Intercountry Adopted People?

On By lynellelongIn 1993 Hague Convention, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption and power imbalance, adoption conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoption policy, Adoption questions, adoption reform, adoptive family dialogue, Biological Connections Matter, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Intercultural struggles, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Not Knowing in Adoption, Older Age Adoptions, Peer support, Politics of Adoption, Post Adoption Support, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Return to Birth Country, Return to Birth Country, Rights in Adoption, Search and Reunion in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

A collection of adoptee thoughts on "Best Interests of the Child" should mean.

Not My Adopted Child!

On By julietteviaIn Abandonment and Rejection, Adjustment and Transition, Adoptee Anger, adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee Intimate Relationships, Adoptee Support, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Breakdown / Failure, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption questions, adoptive parent defensiveness, adoptive parent reflection, adoptive parent responsibility, Biological Connections Matter, Colourblindness in adoption, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, denial gaslighting minimisation by others, Difficult discussions in adoption, Exploring adoptive parent journey, Finding biological mother, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Intercultural struggles, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Malaysia, Not Knowing in Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Return to Birth Country, reunion trauma, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, UK9 Comments

Juliette shares about how adoptive parents can't see the reality of their own adopted child.

Adoptee Body Keeps Score

On By julietteviaIn adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption questions, Aloneness, Isolation, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Not Knowing in Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

Juliette Lam shares about the adoptee experience of our body knowing the truth of our traumas.