Category: Adoptee Intimate Relationships

Cut Chilli Melbourne Community Event

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ICAV’s Cut Chilli Melbourne event brought adoptees together through theatre, food and a panel exploring identity, family, belonging and lived experience.

Adoption is a lifelong process

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Lynelle presents that adoptees need informed, compassionate and lifelong support as they navigate identity, belonging and the complexities of living between two worlds.

Belonging: The Lifelong Question Many Adoptees Cannot Answer

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Lynelle discusses why so many intercountry adoptees struggle to feel they belong? A powerful personal reflection on identity, family, race, loss and finding belonging.

Love, Relationships, and the Impact of Adoption

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Jonti reflects on how adoption trauma shaped his relationships, emotional reactions, and journey toward growth.

Integrating the Parts in Adoption

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Bina shares about the fragmentation adoptees endure in order to survive and the grief work we must do to reintegrate our dual selves.

We can be our own Heroes

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Bina shares about the after effects of losing fellow adoptees to suicide, how we can work together to overcome the things that death can trigger.

Family thoughts during this time of Year

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Bina writes about the complexities of holiday times for adoptees.

Not My Adopted Child!

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Juliette shares about how adoptive parents can't see the reality of their own adopted child.