Category: Biological Connections Matter

Changing an Adopted Child’s Name: Identity & Rights

On By lynellelongIn Adoptee Birthdays, Adoptee Names, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoption questions, adoptive family dialogue, adoptive parent reflection, Australia, Biological Connections Matter, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Family Preservation, Forced separation, Grief and Loss, human rights abuses in adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Intercultural struggles, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Not Knowing in Adoption, Politics of Adoption, right to identity, Rights in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, VietnamLeave a comment

From cultural respect to children's rights, Lynelle Long reflects on adoption, renaming, identity and why every child deserves to keep their original name.

Adoption: From Charity to Justice

On By julietteviaIn Adoptee Activism, Adoptees Educate, adoption accountability, adoption and power imbalance, adoption conversations, adoption reform, Advocacy, Biological Connections Matter, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, first family separation, Forced separation, human rights abuses in adoption, Illicit Adoption, Is adoption the best option, Justice Routes, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Malaysia, Politics of Adoption, reparative justice in adoption, Rights in Adoption, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, UK2 Comments

Marie Gardom explores what adoption would look like, moving from a charity to justice model.

Wearing Your Fate

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption connections to surrogacy, adoption conversations, Biological Connections Matter, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Family Preservation, Importance of Connections to Origins, India, Is adoption the best option, Listen to Adoptees, Politics of Adoption, right to identity, Rights in Adoption, The Netherlands1 Comment

Bina shares on what can be learned from adoption and surrogacy.

Biology doesn’t matter?

On By lynellelongIn Adoptees Educate, adoption conversations, Adoption questions, Biological Connections Matter, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, first family separation, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Not Knowing in Adoption, Politics of Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption2 Comments

ICAV Blogger Collaborative Series #4

Adopted as Infants

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, adoption conversations, Adoption questions, Biological Connections Matter, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Finding biological mother, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Not Knowing in Adoption, Origins Search, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption1 Comment

ICAV Blogger Collaborative Series #1 for NAAM 2019

But He’s Not Your Father!

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee Anger, adoptee emotional burden, Biological Connections Matter, Birth mother choices, Complexities in Adoption, Finding biological father, first family separation, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Origins Search, right to identity, Sweden, Trauma in Adoption6 Comments

Sarah Mårtensson shares the complexities of being in reunion with her Muslim bio father.

You Can’t Counsel Yourself into Belonging

On By julietteviaIn adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Conversations, adoption conversations, Adoption questions, Aloneness, Isolation, Biological Connections Matter, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, denial gaslighting minimisation by others, Difficult discussions in adoption, Diversity in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Peer support, Politics of Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption4 Comments

Juliette shares her thoughts after watching Red Table Talk episode featuring Angela Tucker, transracial adoptee.

I May Not Remember, But I’ll Never Forget

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee Anger, Adoptee Artists, adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, adoption conversations, Adoption Conversations, Adoption questions, Aloneness, Isolation, Biological Connections Matter, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Motherloss, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Poetry by Adoptees, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, USA, VietnamLeave a comment

Kev Minh, Vietnamese American adoptee shares.

What is in our “Best Interests” as Intercountry Adopted People?

On By lynellelongIn 1993 Hague Convention, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption and power imbalance, adoption conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoption policy, Adoption questions, adoption reform, adoptive family dialogue, Biological Connections Matter, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Intercultural struggles, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Not Knowing in Adoption, Older Age Adoptions, Peer support, Politics of Adoption, Post Adoption Support, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Return to Birth Country, Return to Birth Country, Rights in Adoption, Search and Reunion in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

A collection of adoptee thoughts on "Best Interests of the Child" should mean.

Not My Adopted Child!

On By julietteviaIn Abandonment and Rejection, Adjustment and Transition, Adoptee Anger, adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee Intimate Relationships, Adoptee Support, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Breakdown / Failure, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption questions, adoptive parent defensiveness, adoptive parent reflection, adoptive parent responsibility, Biological Connections Matter, Colourblindness in adoption, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, denial gaslighting minimisation by others, Difficult discussions in adoption, Exploring adoptive parent journey, Finding biological mother, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Intercultural struggles, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Malaysia, Not Knowing in Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Return to Birth Country, reunion trauma, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, UK9 Comments

Juliette shares about how adoptive parents can't see the reality of their own adopted child.