Category: Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents

Dear Dad, You are Still Racist

On By Guest BloggerIn Abuse in Adoption, Adoptee Anger, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Haiti, Illegal Adoption, Illicit Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Politics of Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, USA7 Comments

Mae adopted from Haiti shares the complexities of being trafficked and having a racist dad

The Truth About Intercountry Adoption

On By lynellelongIn Adoptee vulnerability, adoption accountability, adoption and power imbalance, Adoption Conversations, adoption conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, adoptive family dialogue, adoptive parent reflection, adoptive parent responsibility, Adoptive parents, Advocacy, Alternatives to Adoption, Birth mother choices, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Family Preservation, First family responsibility, human rights abuses in adoption, identity restoration, Illegal Adoption, Illicit Adoption, Impacts to Biological Families, intercountry adoption investigation, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Politics of Adoption, reparative justice in adoption, right to identity, Rights in Adoption, State responsibilities in adoption, Trauma in Adoption, Uganda1 Comment

Jessica & Lynelle share some realities of intercountry adoption.

The Legacy and Impacts of Abuse in Adoption

On By lynellelongIn Abuse in Adoption, Adoptee Anger, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoptive Country, Birth Country, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Family Preservation, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Politics of Adoption, Suicide, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption3 Comments

Lynelle's part 2 of 3 on Sexual Abuse within Adoption.

Review: One Child Nation

On By lynellelongIn Adoption Agencies, Adoption Book, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, adoption reform, Adoption Research, China, China, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Family Preservation, Forced separation, Impacts to Biological Families, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Politics of Adoption, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

Lynelle shares her thoughts about One Child Nation documentary.

What’s in a Name? Identity, Respect, Ownership?

On By lynellelongIn Adoptee Anger, Adoptee Names, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Complexities in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Sense of Belonging4 Comments

ICAV members share their thoughts on Changing Names at Adoption

Can Intercountry Adoption be Ethical? Does it do Good?

On By lynellelongIn 1993 Hague Convention, adoption accountability, adoption and power imbalance, adoption conversations, Adoption Conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoption policy, Alternatives to Adoption, Australia, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Exploring adoptive parent journey, Family Preservation, Finding biological mother, Gratitude in Adoption, Illegal Adoption, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Not Knowing in Adoption, Origins Search, Politics of Adoption, Rights in Adoption, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, USALeave a comment

Are you doing good by intercountry adopting?

Alternatives to Adoption?

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee Activism, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption conversations, Adoption Conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoption policy, adoption reform, Alternatives to Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Is adoption the best option, Listen to Adoptees, Politics of Adoption, Rights in Adoption, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption1 Comment

ICAV Blogger Collaborative Series #3

I Don’t See Colour!

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee Anger, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoptive Country, Antiracism Education, Beauty in Diversity, Birth Country, Colourblindness in adoption, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Diversity in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Politics of Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption1 Comment

ICAV Blogger Collaborative Series #2 addressing adoption colour blindness.

Not a Tourist Attraction

On By Guest BloggerIn adoption accountability, Adoption Agencies, adoption and power imbalance, Adoption Conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoption policy, Adoption questions, adoption reform, adoptive family dialogue, adoptive parent reflection, Adoptive parents, Alternatives to Adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Family Preservation, first family separation, Forced separation, human rights abuses in adoption, identity restoration, Illegal Adoption, Illicit Adoption, Impacts to Biological Families, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Justice Routes, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Reparation in Adoption, Rights in Adoption, State responsibilities in adoption, Uganda, USA, What is an Illegal and Illicit Adoption?Leave a comment

Jessica challenges us to think critically about our intentions to do good.

Identity, Lost & Found

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee vulnerability, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoptive parents, Beauty in Diversity, Colombia, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Diversity in Adoption, Family Preservation, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Peer Support, Post Adoption Support, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Return to Birth Country, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, USA2 Comments

Abby reflects on reclaiming her Latina identity after growing up in a white Jewish family, highlighting the impact of adoption practices on self-worth and cultural connection.

What is in our “Best Interests” as Intercountry Adopted People?

On By lynellelongIn 1993 Hague Convention, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption and power imbalance, adoption conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoption policy, Adoption questions, adoption reform, adoptive family dialogue, Biological Connections Matter, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Intercultural struggles, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Not Knowing in Adoption, Older Age Adoptions, Peer support, Politics of Adoption, Post Adoption Support, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Return to Birth Country, Return to Birth Country, Rights in Adoption, Search and Reunion in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

A collection of adoptee thoughts on "Best Interests of the Child" should mean.

Not My Adopted Child!

On By julietteviaIn Abandonment and Rejection, Adjustment and Transition, Adoptee Anger, adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee Intimate Relationships, Adoptee Support, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Breakdown / Failure, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption questions, adoptive parent defensiveness, adoptive parent reflection, adoptive parent responsibility, Biological Connections Matter, colourblindness in adoption, Colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, denial gaslighting minimisation by others, Difficult discussions in adoption, Exploring adoptive parent journey, Finding biological mother, first family separation, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Gratitude in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Intercultural struggles, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Malaysia, Not Knowing in Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Return to Birth Country, reunion trauma, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, UK9 Comments

Juliette shares about how adoptive parents can't see the reality of their own adopted child.

Adoptee Body Keeps Score

On By julietteviaIn adoptee emotional burden, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees are not blank slates, Adoptees Educate, adoption conversations, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption questions, Aloneness, Isolation, colourblindness in adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Forced separation, Generational trauma, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Listen to Adoptees, Not Knowing in Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Relationships Struggles, Sense of Belonging, Survival mechanisms, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

Juliette Lam shares about the adoptee experience of our body knowing the truth of our traumas.

The Push-Pull Dance in Adoptee Relationships

On By lynellelongIn Abandonment and Rejection, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoptive Country, Birth Country, Complexities in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Not Knowing in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption2 Comments

Lynelle discusses the difficulties in relationships as an intercountry adoptee and why is love so difficult: attachment, bonding, connection and adoption.

Expectations of Gratitude in Adoption

On By lynellelongIn Abuse in Adoption, Adoptee Anger, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoptive Country, Birth Country, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Not Knowing in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption3 Comments

Lynelle shares about the burden of being expected to be grateful in being adopted.

Degrees of Being Trafficked in Intercountry Adoption

On By lynellelongIn 1993 Hague Convention, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, adoption reform, Adoptive Country, Australia, Birth Country, Compensation to Victims in Adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Illegal Adoption, Illicit Adoption, Impacts to Biological Families, Importance of Connections to Origins, India, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Origins Search, Politics of Adoption, Return to Birth Country, Rights in Adoption, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, What is an Illegal and Illicit Adoption?2 Comments

Lynelle writes critically about the lack of formal support for adoptees who have been trafficked via intercountry adoption.

Who Am I?

On By jaymekyopoIn Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Korea, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, USALeave a comment

Jayme questions who he is as an intercountry adoptee from Sth Korea.

Gabby Mentors Young Chinese Adoptees via Art

On By Guest BloggerIn Adoptee Artists, Adoptee Artwork, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Australia, China, Diversity in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Peer Support, Racial Mirrors, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption2 Comments

Gabby Malpas shares her talent by mentoring younger Chinese adoptees through her artwork.

Citizenship should be guaranteed in Intercountry Adoption

On By lynellelongIn 1993 Hague Convention, Adoptee Activism, Adoptee Anger, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Agencies, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, adoption reform, Adoptive Country, Birth Country, Citizenship in Adoption, Compensation to Victims in Adoption, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Illegal Adoption, Illicit Adoption, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Not Knowing in Adoption, Politics of Adoption, Rights in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, USALeave a comment

Citizenship in America is not granted to all intercountry adoptees. This paper explores the topic critically from those with lived experience.

Trauma of Transition for Older Aged Adoptees

On By lynellelongIn Adjustment and Transition, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Agencies, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Adoptive Country, Birth Country, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Not Knowing in Adoption, Older Age Adoptions, Sense of Belonging, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption1 Comment

Older age adoptees struggle to transition from their first life to their second. What can be done to reduce the trauma of transition in older age adoptions?

Colombian Intercountry Adoptee Anthology

On By lynellelongIn Abandonment and Rejection, Abuse in Adoption, Adjustment and Transition, Adoptee Anger, Adoptee Birthdays, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Book, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Alcohol and drug addiction, Colombia, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Difficult discussions in adoption, Diversity in Adoption, DNA Searching, Eating Disorder and Adoption, Family Preservation, Forced separation, Gratitude in Adoption, Grief and Loss, Illegal Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Multiple Identities, Not Knowing in Adoption, Older Age Adoptions, Origins Search, Poetry by Adoptees, Politics of Adoption, Racial Mirrors, Racism in Adoption, Sense of Belonging, Suicide, Therapy, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

The first Colombian intercountry adoptee anthology that shares the many complexities of being adopted from Colombia, edited and compiled by Abby Forero-Hilty.

Memories and Feelings of an Older Aged Adoptee

On By lynellelongIn Adjustment and Transition, Adoptee vulnerability, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Agencies, Adoption Attachment, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Australia, Complexities in Adoption, Critical Thinking in Adoption, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Older Age Adoptions, Sense of Belonging, Thailand, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in AdoptionLeave a comment

Being adopted at older ages brings with it more complex issues to sort thru and need specialised support for. Min shares her story as a Thai adoptee.

Complexities of Intercountry Adoption

On By lynellelongIn Abandonment and Rejection, Adoptees Educate, Adoption Education for Adoptive Parents, Adoption Education for Professionals, Australia, Complexities in Adoption, ICAV Beginnings, Importance of Connections to Origins, Is adoption the best option, Lifelong Impacts of Adoption, Not Knowing in Adoption, Origins Search, Transracial Adoption, Trauma in Adoption, VietnamLeave a comment

Lynelle shares on intercountry adoption, together with her own experience and hearing from many fellow adoptees on a range of questions asked by a journalist.