Category: Is adoption the best option

Thoughts from Into the Fire: The Lost Daughter

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Lynelle shares her thoughts after watching Into the Fire: The Lost Daughter, on Netflix.

Addressing Sexual Abuse in Intercountry Adoption

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ICAVs newest Perspective Paper on Sexual Abuse experiences of intercountry adoptees helping to elevate their voices and advocate for much needed supports.

Adopted from Moldova

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Jacky shares about growing up with fragmented memories of their birth country Moldova and adjustments to fit in with life and family in the USA.

What do I want from my adoptive parents?

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Lynelle shares what she would have wanted from her adoptive parents in response to the fraud and human rights abuses in her adoption.

How I feel about the end of Chinese intercountry adoption

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Meredith shares the range of emotions she is experiencing since the announcement by China, her birth country, that all intercountry adoptions will stop.

A formal apology for an illegal intercountry adoption

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A historic day in Guatemala with an apology to a family who were torn apart by illegal intercountry adoption. English translation provided.

The Realities of Adoption and Reunion

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Marta shares the realities of reunion with her Ethiopian family.

Children’s Rights to Access Justice and Effective Remedies

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ICAV presents to UNCRC on 18May24 for purposes of drafting the General Comment on Access to Justice and Remedies as children with violated childhoods and identities.

The Pain is Bearable

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Soorien shares about the bearable pain of grief and loss she lives with as a Korean intercountry adoptee raised in the Netherlands.

Monologue performances showcasing the complex lived experience of adoption

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Performances by José Montoya: one on Grief the other a biographic portrayal of his life, adopted from Colombia to the Netherlands and the complexities within.

Adoptees as experts and influencing international standards through advocacy

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Lynelle shares about the journey from understanding her adoption to becoming an adoptee advocate, pushing for much needed change at international levels.

How to Truly Save and Help a Child

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Jessica shares the realities of intercountry adoption and what people can do to help a vulnerable child in need, challenging the usual narrative of adoption.

Navigating Disability and Rare Medical Conditions as an Intercountry Adoptee

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What complex issues do intercountry adoptees living with disability and or a rare disease navigate? We have created a resource to help educate on this topic.

Grief in Adoption

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Cosette shares deep feelings of grief during her life, coming to terms with all she's lost and might never know. Being adopted means living deep grief.

Confirmation that we are born as adoptees

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Hollee shares on the significance of having access to information about our origins as adoptees.

An Adoptee’s Thoughts on Haaland vs Brackeen

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Patrick shares on the current Haaland vs Brackeen case that challenges the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA) and asks why family preservation isn't the focus.

One Adoptee’s Thoughts on the UN Joint Statement on Illegal Intercountry Adoptions

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Lynelle shares her thoughts on the UN Joint Statement on Illegal Intercountry Adoption.

A Question for Adoption Agencies

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Cameron asks adoption agencies how well they are incorporating adoptee voices and adoptee led research into their practice and policy.

Agent Orange Awareness Month

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Lynelle shares thoughts of October as Agent Orange Awareness Month which triggers a deeper look into how she came to be sent abroad as a Vietnamese adoptee.

Suicide Amongst Adoptees

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Hilbrand shares about the trauma in relinquishment and adoption and the connection with suicide amongst adoptees.

Meg at K-Box Adoptee Takeover Night

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Meg O'Shea presents her comic about returning and searching in Korea at our 9 Sept 2022 K-Box Adoptee Takeover Night in Melbourne, Australia.

Being Illegally Adopted and a Forced Reunion

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Aimee shares about her illegal adoption from Taiwan and being forced into reunion through media involvement and her first mother and adoptive parent wishes.