Daughter lost via adoption from her Chinese father, tells her perspective of the complexities reunion brings up for them both and the losses that remain lifelong.
Category: Grief and Loss
The Sin of Love
Chinese father who lost his daughter via intercountry adoption shares his story of loss and hope, now reunion and the memories and pain it has brought up.
We Need To Talk About Adoptee Suicide, Now
Lina shares part 2 of her discussion into adoptee suicide - something we must talk about if we are going to provide a more supportive space.
Balancing Love and Loss
Bina shares about the complex emotions adoptees have to work through.
The Aloneness of Motherloss
Mila Konomos articulates the aloneness of mother loss, the grief and loss an adoptee lives due to being separated at birth.
Cancelling My Adoption
Netra Sommer is adopted from India to Denmark and endured abuse in her adoption and talks about undoing her adoption and the lengthy process to reclaim herself.
Adoptee Dualities
Abby explores the complex dualities adoptees face, from identity and family connections to cultural struggles, highlighting the emotional toll of navigating adoption experiences.
Dear Dad, You are Still Racist
Mae adopted from Haiti shares the complexities of being trafficked and having a racist dad
Who Am I?
Vietnamese adoptee TLB shares about living with disability, being rehomed, and loss.
The Legacy and Impacts of Abuse in Adoption
Lynelle's part 2 of 3 on Sexual Abuse within Adoption.
Questioning
Abby reflects on curiosity, identity, trauma, and the importance of questioning societal norms and systems, while seeking healing and understanding.
I Don’t See Colour!
ICAV Blogger Collaborative Series #2 addressing adoption colour blindness.
Brokenness in Adoption
Huang Feng Ying shares artwork and thoughts about being adopted from China.
Grieving Mother
Joey is adopted from China to the USA and writes about his grief for his first mother.
Identity, Lost & Found
Abby reflects on reclaiming her Latina identity after growing up in a white Jewish family, highlighting the impact of adoption practices on self-worth and cultural connection.
Digging in the Dirt
Abby emphasizes the importance of post-adoption services for healing adoption trauma, highlighting the need for community support, therapy, and resources to thrive.
Celebrating Secrets and Sadness
Adoptee birthdays are a day of celebrating secrets and sadness, a complex day of emotions reminding us we are not with the ones who birthed us.
When Pain and Loss is Too Much
Indian adoptee Pooja shares the challenges of her complex life being adopted to Australia.
The Push-Pull Dance in Adoptee Relationships
Lynelle discusses the difficulties in relationships as an intercountry adoptee and why is love so difficult: attachment, bonding, connection and adoption.
Return to Birthland
Vietnamese adoptee Lynelle shares about her second return journey to homeland, a decade later and how things have changed.
Expectations of Gratitude in Adoption
Lynelle shares about the burden of being expected to be grateful in being adopted.
Degrees of Being Trafficked in Intercountry Adoption
Lynelle writes critically about the lack of formal support for adoptees who have been trafficked via intercountry adoption.
Who Am I?
Jayme questions who he is as an intercountry adoptee from Sth Korea.
Gabby Mentors Young Chinese Adoptees via Art
Gabby Malpas shares her talent by mentoring younger Chinese adoptees through her artwork.