ํ—ค์ด๊ทธ ํŠน๋ณ„์œ„์›ํšŒ์˜ ์ž…์–‘์ธ

๋‹ค์Œ ์ฃผ 7์›” 4์ผ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ 8์ผ๊นŒ์ง€ 104๊ฐœ๊ตญ 1993๋…„ 5์›” 29์ผ ์•„๋™๋ณดํ˜ธ ๋ฐ ๊ตญ์ œ์ž…์–‘ ํ˜‘๋ ฅ์— ๊ด€ํ•œ ํ˜‘์•ฝ ์—์„œ ์˜จ๋ผ์ธ์œผ๋กœ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋ชจ์ผ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠน๋ณ„์œ„์›ํšŒ ํšŒ์˜ ํ† ๋ก ํ•˜๋‹ค ์ž…์–‘ ํ›„ ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋ถˆ๋ฒ•/๋ถˆ๋ฒ• ์ž…์–‘ ๋ฌธ์ œ. ๋ณดํ†ต 5๋…„์— ํ•œ ๋ฒˆ์”ฉ ์—ด๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ ์žˆ๋Š” ํ–‰์‚ฌ๋กœ, ์ด๋ฒˆ์ด ์ฒ˜์Œ์ด๋‹ค. ๋„“์€ ์ฐธ์„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ตญ์ œ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์˜ ๋Œ€ํ‘œ ๊ด€์ฐฐ์ž. ์—ญ์‚ฌ์ ์œผ๋กœ 2005๋…„๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ๊ตญ์ œํ•œ์ธ์ž…์–‘์ธํ˜‘ํšŒ(IKAA)), ํ•œ๊ตญ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์˜ ์ด์ต์„ ๋Œ€ํ‘œํ•˜๋Š” ๋„คํŠธ์›Œํฌ๋Š” ๋ฟ ์ฐธ์„ํ•  ์ž…์–‘์ธ ๋‹จ์ฒด. 2015๋…„, ๋ธŒ๋ผ์งˆ ๋ฒ ์ด๋น„ ์–ดํŽ˜์–ด(BBA) IKAA์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ฐธ์„ํ•œ ๋‘ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ž…์–‘์ธ ์ฃผ๋„ ์กฐ์ง์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. COVID๋กœ ์ธํ•ด ์ด๋ฒˆ ํŠน๋ณ„ ์œ„์›ํšŒ ํšŒ์˜๊ฐ€ ์—ฐ๊ธฐ๋˜์—ˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ ์ง€๋‚œ ๋ช‡ ๋…„ ๋™์•ˆ ์ €๋Š” ์ž…์–‘์ธ ์ฃผ๋„ ์กฐ์ง ์‚ฌ์ด์— HOW ์ ์šฉ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ง€์‹์„ ์ „ํŒŒํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‹ค์Œ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์€ ํ˜„์žฅ ๊ฒฝํ—˜ ์กฐ์ง์„ ์žฅ๋ คํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์„ ์ฃผ์—ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ž๋ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ธˆํŒŒ (ํ•œ๊ตญ ์–ด๋จธ๋‹ˆ ๋‹จ์ฒด)๋ฅผ ๋Œ€ํ‘œํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ฌํ•ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ž๋ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฝ๊ฒŒ 6 ์ž…์–‘์ธ์€ ์ž์‹ ๊ณผ ์ง€์—ญ ์‚ฌํšŒ๋ฅผ ๋Œ€ํ‘œํ•˜๋Š” ์กฐ์ง์„ ์ด๋Œ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ง„ํ–‰ํ–ˆ๋‹ค!

2015๋…„์—, ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋ธ”๋กœ๊ทธ ์ œ๋ชฉ์„ ์ผ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ตญ์ œ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์˜ ๋ชฉ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ด์œ  ์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ์—์„œ. ์ €๋Š” ์ˆ˜๋…„์— ๊ฑธ์ณ ์ •๋ถ€ ๋…ผ์˜์˜ ์ตœ๊ณ  ์ˆ˜์ค€์— ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋ชฉ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ํฌํ•จ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์˜ ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์˜นํ˜ธํ•ด ์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๋‹ค์‹œ ๋งํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋ชฉ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์ตœ๊ณ  ์ˆ˜์ค€์˜ ์ฑ„ํƒ ์ •์ฑ…, ๊ด€ํ–‰ ๋ฐ ์ž…๋ฒ• ๋…ผ์˜์—์„œ ๋งค์šฐ ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ผ๋ถ€ ๋น„ํ‰๊ฐ€๋“ค์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ํšŒ์˜์— ์ฐธ์„ํ•ด๋„ ๊ตญ์ œ ์ž…์–‘์— ์žˆ์–ด ์•„๋ฌด ๋ณ€ํ™”๊ฐ€ ์—†๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ, ์ €๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์„ฑ์ธ์˜ ๋ชจ์Šต์„ ์ˆซ์ž๋กœ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ณด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋งŒ์œผ๋กœ๋„ ์ •๋ถ€์™€ ๋‹น๊ตญ์ด ๋ช‡ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์‚ฌํ•ญ์„ ๊นจ๋‹ซ๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

  • ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์„ฑ์žฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค! ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์˜์›ํ•œ ์•„์ด๋กœ ๋‚จ์•„ ์žˆ์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฏธ๋ž˜์˜ ์•„์ด๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ผ์–ด๋‚  ์ผ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋ฐœ์–ธ๊ถŒ์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ง„์ •ํ•œ "๋ˆ„๊ตฌ"์— ์ง‘์ค‘ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ๋„์™€์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค! ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด๋ฆ„ ์—†๋Š” ์ˆซ์ž๋‚˜ ํ†ต๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์‹ค์ œ ๊ฐ์ •, ์ƒ๊ฐ ๋ฐ ๋ฌด์ˆ˜ํ•œ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ๊ฐ€์ง„ ์‚ด์•„์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๊ฒฐ์ •์€ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์‚ถ๊ณผ ๋ฏธ๋ž˜ ์„ธ๋Œ€์— ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์นฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค!
  • ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๋ฏธ๋ž˜๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋” ๋‚˜์€ ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค๊ณ  ์—ญ์‚ฌ์  ์ž˜๋ชป์„ ๋ฐ”๋กœ์žก๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ๊ตํ›ˆ์„ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๋„๋ก ๋•์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์‹ค์ œ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์˜ ์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€์ด๋ฉฐ ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ํ™œ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์—ญํ• ์„ ๋” ์ž˜ ์ˆ˜ํ–‰ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ทจ์•ฝํ•œ ์–ด๋ฆฐ์ด๋ฅผ ๋Œ๋ณด๋Š” ๋ฐฉ์‹์„ ๊ฐœ์„ ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•œ ํ†ต์ฐฐ๋ ฅ์„ ์–ป์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํ—ค์ด๊ทธ ํ˜‘์•ฝ ํ”„๋ ˆ์ž„์›Œํฌ์˜ ์žฅ์  ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜๋Š” ์ž…์–‘์ธ์ด ๊ตญ์ œ ์ž…์–‘์„ ์ •์˜ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ƒ์„ฑํ•˜๋Š” ๊ถŒ๋ ฅ ๊ตฌ์กฐ ๋ฐ ๋‹น๊ตญ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ฐ€์‹œ์„ฑ๊ณผ ์ ‘๊ทผ์„ ๊ฐ€์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‹ค๊ฐ€์˜ค๋Š” ํŠน๋ณ„ ์œ„์›ํšŒ์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๊ธฐํšŒ๋ฅผ ์ฐฝ์ถœํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ตญ๋‚ด ์ž…์–‘์ธ์€ ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ํ”„๋ ˆ์ž„์›Œํฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ถ€์กฑํ•˜๊ณ  ์˜นํ˜ธ ํ™œ๋™์— ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ •๋ณด์™€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์— ์ ‘๊ทผํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ธฐํšŒ๋ฅผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๊ฐ–๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋ถˆ๋ฆฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ฌํ•ด ํšŒ์˜์—์„œ ICAV๋ฅผ ๋Œ€ํ‘œํ•˜๋Š” 8๋ช…์˜ ํŒ€์ด ์ •๋ง ์ž๋ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฝ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋งค์šฐ ์ค‘์š”ํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ์ž…์–‘ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€์™€ ์ถœ์ƒ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ๋‹ค๋ฃฐ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ, ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ๊ฐœ์„ ์˜ ์—ฌ์ง€๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ชจ๋‘๊ฐ€ ์ž์› ๋ด‰์‚ฌ์ž๋กœ ์ด ์ผ์„ ํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์˜ ๊ฐ€์šฉ์„ฑ๊ณผ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์•ฝ์†์— ์˜ํ•ด ์ œํ•œ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด๋ฒˆ ํšŒ์˜์—์„œ ์ •๋ถ€๋‚˜ ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„์˜ NGO ์ฐธ๊ฐ€์ž๋กœ์„œ ๊ธ‰์—ฌ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆํ‹ฐ๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ฐœ์„ ํ•˜๋ ค๋Š” ๋…ธ๋ ฅ์— ์—ด์ •์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ฐธ์—ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค! ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ์ •์˜ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ถŒ๋ ฅ ๊ตฌ์กฐ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ง€์‹์„ ๊ฐ–์ถ”๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํ•„์ˆ˜์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ธ€๋กœ๋ฒŒ ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆํ‹ฐ๋ฅผ ๋Œ€ํ‘œํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋ฐค๋‚ฎ์œผ๋กœ 4์ผ์˜ ์‹œ๊ฐ„๊ณผ ๋…ธ๋ ฅ์„ ์ž์› ๋ด‰์‚ฌํ•˜๋Š” ์ด ์ž…์–‘์ธ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ํฐ ๊ฐ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๋“œ๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค!

  • ์• ๋น„ ํฌ๋ ˆ๋กœ-ํžํ‹ฐ (๋ฏธ๊ตญ ์ž…์–‘, ํ˜„์žฌ ์บ๋‚˜๋‹ค ๊ฑฐ์ฃผ, ์ฝœ๋กฌ๋น„์•„ ์ถœ์ƒ, ์ฝœ๋กฌ๋น„์•„ ์ž…์–‘์ธ ์„ ์ง‘ ์ €์ž ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ธฐ์›์„ ํ•ด๋…, ์ฝœ๋กฌ๋น„์•„ Raรญces์˜ ๊ณต๋™ ์„ค๋ฆฝ์ž; ICAV ๊ตญ์ œ๋Œ€ํ‘œ)
  • ์•„์ƒค ๋ณผํŠผ์„ ์†Œ์ค‘ํžˆ (๋ฏธ๊ตญ์— ์ž…์–‘, ์ธ๋„ ํƒœ์ƒ, ๋Œ€ํ†ต๋ น ์œค๋ฆฌ ์ž…์–‘ ๊ฐœํ˜์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค PEAR; ICAV USA ๋Œ€ํ‘œ)
  • ์ฝœ๋ฆฐ ์บ๋””์–ด (ํ”„๋ž‘์Šค์— ์ž…์–‘, ๋ธŒ๋ผ์งˆ ํƒœ์ƒ, ๋Œ€ํ†ต๋ น La Voix Des Adoptes LVDA)
  • ์ง€๋‹ˆ ๊ธ€๋ฆฌ์—๋‚˜ (๋ฏธ๊ตญ ์ž…์–‘, ํ•„๋ฆฌํ•€ ํƒœ์ƒ, ๊ณต๋™ ์„ค๋ฆฝ์ž ์ž…์–‘์ธ Kwento Kwento)
  • ์ฃผ๋””์Šค ์•Œ๋ ‰์‹œ์Šค ์–ด๊ฑฐ์Šคํ‹ด ํฌ๋ ˆ์ด๊ทธ (์บ๋‚˜๋‹ค ์ž…์–‘, ์•„์ดํ‹ฐ ํƒœ์ƒ, ์˜ ๊ณต๋™ ์„ค๋ฆฝ์ž ์„ฑ์ธ ์ž…์–‘์ธ ๋„คํŠธ์›Œํฌ ์˜จํƒ€๋ฆฌ์˜ค)
  • ์นด์ผ๋ผ ์ • (๋ฏธ๊ตญ ์ž…์–‘, ์ค‘๊ตญ ํƒœ์ƒ, ICAV USA ๋Œ€ํ‘œ)
  • ๋ฃจ๋‹ค ๋ฉ”๋ฆฌ๋…ธ (์ŠคํŽ˜์ธ์— ์ž…์–‘, ๋Ÿฌ์‹œ์•„ ํƒœ์ƒ)
  • ๋‚ด ์ž์‹ , ๋ฆฌ๋„ฌ ๋กฑ (ํ˜ธ์ฃผ๋กœ ์ž…์–‘, ๋ฒ ํŠธ๋‚จ ํƒœ์ƒ, ์„ค๋ฆฝ์ž ICAV)

์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์ž…์–‘์ธ ์ฃผ๋„ ์กฐ์ง์„ ์˜ต์ €๋ฒ„๋กœ ๋Œ€ํ‘œํ•˜๋Š” ์ž…์–‘์ธ ๋™๋ฃŒ์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ž์‹ ์„ ๋Œ€ํ‘œํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ €๋Š” ์ด๋ฒˆ ํšŒ์˜์—์„œ ํฐ ๋ณ€ํ™”๋‚˜ ๊ธฐ๋…๋น„์ ์ธ ์‚ฌ๊ฑด์„ ๊ธฐ๋Œ€ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์ง€๋งŒ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์ธ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ž์‹ ๊ณผ ๋˜๋Š” ๋Œ€ํ‘œ๋˜๋Š” ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ์ •๋ถ€ ๋ฐ NGO ์กฐ์ง ์‚ฌ์ด์— ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๊ณต๊ฐ„์˜ ๋ณ€ํ™”๋Š” ์ˆ˜์‹ญ ๋…„์ด ๊ฑธ๋ฆฌ์ง€๋งŒ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด ์ง€๋‚จ์— ๋”ฐ๋ผ ์ž๋ผ๋‚˜๋Š” ์ž‘์€ ์ธ์—ฐ๋“ค์ด ์Œ“์—ฌ์„œ ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์˜ํ–ฅ์ด ๋˜๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‹ค์Œ ๋ช‡ ๊ฐœ์˜ ๊ฒŒ์‹œ๋ฌผ์€ ์ž…์–‘ ํ›„ ์ง€์›์— ๊ด€ํ•œ ํ—ค์ด๊ทธ ํŠน๋ณ„ ์œ„์›ํšŒ ํšŒ์˜๋ฅผ ์ค€๋น„ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ํŒ€์˜ ์ผ๋ถ€๊ฐ€ ์ž‘์„ฑํ•œ ์ฃผ์š” ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€์™€ ์ด ๋ฆฌ๋”๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•ด ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆํ‹ฐ๊ฐ€ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๋‚ด์šฉ์„ ๊ณต์œ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ณ„์† ์ง€์ผœ๋ด ์ฃผ์„ธ์š”!

์šฉ์„œํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‚˜์•„๊ฐ€๊ธฐ

My adoptive aunt passed away two days ago and when the grief of this additional news struck, I took space to mourn, and while embracing more of lifeโ€™s inexplicable changes, I discovered a new and unexpected change in my heart.

๊ทธ๋™์•ˆ ์ง‘์— ๋งŽ์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ๋Š”๋ฐ ๋ฐ–์— ๋‚˜๊ฐ€๊ธฐ ์‹ซ์€ ์•„์ด๋‚˜ํ•˜์ด๋‚˜์—์„œ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ์กฐ์šฉํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ผ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚  ์ค„๋„ ๋ชฐ๋ž๊ณ  ๋ถ„๋…ธ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€๋ผ์•‰์„ ์ค„๋„ ๋ชฐ๋ž๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฒฐ๊ตญ ์šฉ์„œํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ณ  ์ง€๋‚˜๊ฐ„ ์ผ์€ ์ง€๋‚˜๊ฐˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Œ์„ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‚ด ๋งˆ์Œ์ด ์–ธ์ œ ๋ณ€ํ–ˆ๋Š”์ง€ ์••๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ช‡ ์ฃผ ๋™์•ˆ ์น˜๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ๋‘ ๋ฐฐ๋กœ ๋Š˜๋ฆฐ ํ›„ ์ผ์–ด๋‚œ ์ผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠนํžˆ ๋ช‡ ์ฃผ์ผ ์ „ ์ƒˆ ๊ตํšŒ์—์„œ ์ž๋ฆฌ์— ์•‰์•˜์„ ๋•Œ์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚œ ๋•Œ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์ด ์˜ˆ๋ฐฐ๋‹น์—์„œ ๊ฐ€๋ณธ ๊ฒƒ ์ค‘ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์žฌ๋ฏธ์žˆ๊ณ  ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ค์šด ์ผ์š”์ผ ๋ฏธ์‚ฌ์˜€์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์œ ๋ฆฌ์ฐฝ์ด ์ด ์•„์น˜ํ˜• ์ฒœ์žฅ์— ๋„๋‹ฌํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ฐ”๋‹ค๊ฐ€ ๋‚ด๋ ค๋‹ค๋ณด์ด๋Š” ํ•ด๋ณ€์—์„œ ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋‚จ์ž๋Š” ์…”์ธ ๋„ ์—†์ด ํ•ด๋ณ€์šฉ ํŠธ๋ ํฌ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ๋“ค์–ด์™”๊ณ , ์Œ์•… ๋ฐ˜์ฃผ๊ฐ€ ์—ฐ์ฃผ๋  ๋•Œ๋งˆ๋‹ค ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜์„œ ๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ผ๋Š” ์ง€์‹œ ์—†์ด ์„ฑ๊ฒฝ์„ ์ •๋ง ํฐ ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋กœ ์ฝ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋ฅผ ์ง€์ผœ๋ณธ ๋‚˜์˜ ์ง„์ง€ํ•จ์€ ์•„์ฐ”ํ•œ ๋ฏธ์†Œ๋กœ ๋ฐ”๋€Œ์—ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ด€๊ด‘๊ฐ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ํœด๋Œ€ํฐ์œผ๋กœ ๊ทธ์˜ ์‚ฌ์ง„์„ ์ฐ๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋•Œ์„œ์•ผ ๊ธฐ๋ถ„์ด ์ข‹์•„์กŒ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ดํ•ด๊ฐ€ ๋– ์˜ฌ๋ž์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‚ถ. ์• ์ •. ๋น„ํƒ„. ์‹ค๋ง. ์†์‹ค. ํฌ๋ง. ํƒ„๋ ฅ์„ฑ. ์ผ€์•„์ฟ ์•„. ํ•˜๋‚˜๋‹˜. ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค. ์ˆ˜๋ฝ. ๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ๊ฐ–์ง€ ๋ชปํ•œ ๋‚ด ์‚ถ์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ, ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋ฌธํ™”๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ํƒœ์–ด๋‚˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ €๋Š” ํ•ญ์ƒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์˜ค๋Š˜๋‚  ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์„ธ์ƒ์˜ ๊ฐ€์น˜๋ฅผ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ชจ๋‘๋ฅผ ์‚ด์•„ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ์œ ์ผํ•œ ์ด์œ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ ํ›„์— ์น˜๋ฃŒ์‚ฌ์™€ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„์—ˆ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ ์ด์ œ ์ค€๋น„๊ฐ€ ๋˜์—ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์„ ์šฉ์„œํ•  ์ค€๋น„๊ฐ€ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ผ์š”์ผ ์ €๋…์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ €๋„ ๋‚ด์ผ์„ ์ค€๋น„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ์˜ค๋Š˜ ํ•˜๋ฃจ ์ข…์ผ ํ•™์ƒ ์‹œ๋ฅผ ์ฝ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๊ธ€์— ๋‹ต์žฅ์„ ๋ณด๋ƒˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฐ–์€ ์–ด๋‘ก๋‹ค. ์ฐฝ๊ฐ€๋กœ ์ฐจ๋“ค์ด ์ง€๋‚˜๊ฐ€๋Š” ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋“ค๋ฆฐ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‚ด ์•ˆ์—๋Š” ์ž…์–‘์ธ ๊ด€๊ณ„์™€ ์ผ์–ด๋‚œ ๋ชจ๋“  ์ผ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๊ธฐ๋ถ„์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์†์œผ๋กœ๋Š” ์›๋งํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํ•™์ƒ๋“ค์˜ ์‹œ๋ฅผ ๋‚ญ๋…ํ•œ ํ›„ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜๋Š” ํ•ด๋ณ€์„ ๋ฐฉ๋ฌธํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌผ ์‚ฌ์ง„์„ ์ฐ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ ํ›„, ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ทผ์ฒ˜ ์‹ํ’ˆ์ ์— ๊ฐ€์„œ ์•ฝ๊ฐ„์˜ ํฌ์ผ€๋ฅผ ์ƒ€๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ํ•ด๊ฐ€ ์งˆ ๋•Œ ๋ฌผ์„ ๋ฐ”๋ผ๋ณด๋ฉฐ ์ง‘ ์˜†์— ์žˆ๋Š” ํฌํฌ๋กœ ๊ฐ„์‹์„ ๋จน์—ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด ๊ณ ์–‘์ด๋Š” ๋‚ด ์˜† ์ฐฝ๋ฌธ ์˜†์— ์žˆ์—ˆ๊ณ  ํ™”๋ฉด์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ๋‚˜๋ฅผ๋ณด๊ณ ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํ•œ๋™์•ˆ ๋‚ด ์ธ์ƒ์ด ์–ด๋–ค ์žฅ๋ฅด์ธ์ง€ ๊ถ๊ธˆํ–ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‚ด ์ธ์ƒ์ด ๋ถˆํ–‰ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๊ฑด์˜ ํฌ์ƒ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋œ ์–ด๋‘์šด ๋””์Šคํ† ํ”ผ์•„ ๊ณตํฌ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด ์‚ถ์ด ๊ฑฐ์น ๊ณ  ์–ด๋‘์šด ์ƒํ™ฉ๊ณผ ์ธ๋ฌผ๋“ค๋กœ ๊ฐ€๋“ ์ฐจ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„. ์˜ค๋Š˜์—์„œ์•ผ ์ œ ์ธ์ƒ์ด ํ˜ธ๋Ÿฌ ์žฅ๋ฅด๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฑธ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์•˜์–ด์š”! ์‚ฌ์‹ค, ์˜ˆ์ „๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ์„ฑ์žฅํ•ด ์˜จ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ฒฐ๊ตญ ๋‚˜๋Š” ์˜ค์•„ํ›„ ์„ฌ์—์„œ ์กฐ์šฉํ•œ ์‚ถ์„ ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์„ฌ์˜ ํ•œ์ ํ•œ ๊ณณ์— ํ™€๋กœ ๊ฒธ์†ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ณ ์–‘์ด๋ฅผ ํ‚ค์šฐ๊ณ  ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ ํ•™์ƒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๊ธ€์“ฐ๊ธฐ, ์ง‘์—์„œ ์˜ํ™” ๊ฐ์ƒ, ๋งค์ฃผ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜๋Š” ์žฅ์†Œ๋ฅผ ๋ฐฉ๋ฌธํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ์—ฌ๋ฆ„์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ƒˆ๋กœ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ์–ด์š” ์ธ์Šค ํƒ€ ๊ทธ๋žจ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ง€๋ฃจํ•  ๋•Œ๋„ ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ ์ตœ์•…์€ ๋๋‚ฌ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฑธ ์•ˆ๋‹ค.

์‚ฌ๋ž‘์— ๋น ์ง€์ง€ ์•Š์•„ ๊ธฐ์ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋ฐ”๋‹ค ์˜†์— ์‚ด๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๊ฟˆ์„ ๊พธ๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์‚ถ๊ณผ ๋‚˜์˜ ์ž…์–‘ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ๋Š”์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๊ฒฐ๋ก ์— ๋„๋‹ฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋” ์ด์ƒ, ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์š”์ฆ˜์—๋Š” ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ์ฐจ๋‹จํ•  ํ•„์š”๋ฅผ ๋А๋ผ์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์ง„์ •์„ฑ ์žˆ๊ณ  ๋ณดํŽธ์ ์ธ ๊ฑด๊ฐ•ํ•œ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์งˆ ์ค€๋น„๊ฐ€ ๋˜์–ด ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ, ๋งค์ผ์˜ ์น˜์œ ์™€ ๊ทน๋ณต์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ํ—Œ์‹ ์˜ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ์›์ฃผ๋ฏผ ๋ฌธํ™”์™€ ํ•˜์™€์ด์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋” ๋งŽ์ด ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ณ  ์˜ค๋Š˜๋‚ ์˜ ๋‹ค๋ฌธํ™” ์ฒญ์†Œ๋…„๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ด ์„ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๋ชฉ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋‚ด๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น  ์ค€๋น„๊ฐ€ ๋˜์–ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ž, ์š”์ฆ˜์€ ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„ ์‚ด ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ €๋ ดํ•œ ๋‚ด ์ง‘์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์™„์ „ํžˆ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๋ชจํ—˜์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

Desiree์˜ ์ด์ „ ๋ธ”๋กœ๊ทธ ์ฝ๊ธฐ: ์ž…์–‘์€ ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌ์  ๊ฐ์˜ฅ์ด ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ๋”ฐ๋ผย ์œ„๋ธ”๋ฆฌย ๋˜๋Š” ์ธ์Šคํƒ€๊ทธ๋žจย @starwoodletters.

๊ณ„์† ๊ฝƒ์„ ํ”ผ์šฐ๋Š” ๋‘ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ด์œ 

~์— ์˜ํ•ดย ๋ก์‚ฌ์Šค์ถ”์•„, ํ•„๋ฆฌํ•€์—์„œ ๋ฏธ๊ตญ์œผ๋กœ ์ž…์–‘; ์ž‘๊ฐ€, ์˜ˆ์ˆ ๊ฐ€.

๋งŽ์€ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์—๊ฒŒ ์ž…์–‘์€ ์ถฉ๊ฒฉ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ทธ ๋ถ„์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ํ˜ธํกํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ์˜ค๋ž˜ ๋จธ๋ฌผ ์ˆ˜ ์—†๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ ๊ณต์œ ์—์„œ ์„ ํ˜•์ ์ด์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‚ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์“ฐ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ธ€์“ฐ๊ธฐ, ์„œ์˜ˆ, ์˜ˆ์ˆ ์„ ์„ ํƒํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์ข‹์€ ํƒœ์ƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ๊ธฐ์— ์ข‹์€ ์ฃฝ์Œ์„ ๋งž์ดํ•  ๊ธฐํšŒ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์กŒ์œผ๋ฉด ํ•œ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์ ˆ๋‹จ๋œ ๋ชจ์–‘๊ณผ ๋ณด์ด์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์กฐ๊ฐ์œผ๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ์žฌ๊ฑดํ•˜๋Š” ๊ธธ์„ ๊ฐ€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ž์‹ ์ด ์ฐพ์€ ์ผ๋ฃจ๋ฏธ๋„ค์ด์…˜์œผ๋กœ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š” ๊ธธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ“๋‚œ์•„๊ธฐ์ด๊ณ , ์†Œ๋…„์ด๊ณ , ๋‚จ์ž์ด๊ณ  ๋™์‹œ์— ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ณณ์ด๋‹ค. ๊ธ€์„ ์“ฐ๊ณ  ์˜ˆ์ˆ ์„ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ณด๊ธฐ์—๋Š” ์‰ฌ์›Œ๋„ ์‰ฌ์šด ์ผ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด ๊ฐ๊ฐ์ด ์‹ ์ฒด ๋‚ด๋ถ€์˜ ํ†ต์ฆ ์œ„์น˜๋ฅผ ํˆฌ์‚ฌํ•  ๋•Œ ๋‘ ๊ฐœ์˜ ๋ฉ, ๋‘ ๊ฐœ์˜ ์ถ”์ƒํ™”๋กœ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ์ง„์‹ค์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‚ฌํšŒ์™€ ๋ฏธ๋””์–ด์˜ ๊ธฐ๋ถ„ ์ข‹์€ ๋‚ด๋Ÿฌํ‹ฐ๋ธŒ์™€ ๋งž์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค๋ฉด ์ž…์–‘๋˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๋ฒ„๋ ค์ง„ ์•„๊ธฐ์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์— ๋„์ „ํ•  ํ•„์š”๊ฐ€ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋‹น์‹ ์—๊ฒŒ ๋‚ด ๋ชธ์„ ์—ด ๋•Œ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด ๋“ฃ๊ณ ,๋ณด๊ณ , ๋‚˜์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์•‰์•„ ์žˆ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

Ida์˜ Little Things ๋“ฃ๊ธฐ โ€“ https://youtu.be/pmrsYPypQ

Roxas-Chua์˜ ์ด์ „ ๋ธ”๋กœ๊ทธ ์ฐธ์กฐ: ๋‹ฌ์ด ์ง€๊ธˆ ๋‚ด ์ƒ๋ชจ๊ฐ€ ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด

๋” ๋งŽ์€ ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ์›ํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ๋ก์‚ฌ์Šค์ถ”์•„, ํŒŸ์บ์ŠคํŠธ ๋ณด๊ธฐย ์–ด๋”˜๊ฐ€์— ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒย ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ฑ…ย ์ˆ˜์ค‘์—์„œ ์ด๋ฆ„์„ ์„ธ ๋ฒˆ ๋ถ€๋ฅด๊ธฐ.

EMDR ์น˜๋ฃŒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ

~์— ์˜ํ•ด Gabriela Paulsen, adopted from Romania to Denmark.

EMDR Therapy Changed My Life!

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy for me, involved the therapist moving 2 fingers in front of my head so the eyes are moving side to side, while I was thinking about a trauma event. The stimuli can also be something I hold in my hand which is vibrating or it can be tapping done by the therapist. The eye movements help the brain to take up the trauma and reprocess it again, so it does not disturb me in daily life. During the eye movements, I sometimes had different reactions such as crying or maybe some body sensations like getting hot or fast breathing because my body experiences the trauma event again. There can many kind of different reactions and the tricky part is that I had no idea how I would react until I tried it!

In my case, I wanted to work with a trauma I had from my time in Romania as an orphan, I think it was from the orphanage, but I am not completely sure as it could also be a memory from my time in hospital.

My trauma was a memory I only got when I was sleeping and when the trauma was about to occur it felt like I might pass out and loose control. In that moment I knew that I would relive the trauma event again. I experienced the nightmare quite often as a teenager. The last time it happened, was around 10 years ago, just before I turned 17-18 years old. The trauma event felt extremely real. I was very scared and after I woke up, I was completely paralysed with fear. I had always thought this was something real, so when my therapist recommended EMDR therapy for me, I said yes and we started to work with this trauma. I only have my nightmare to work from, so it was not much. I had absolutely no idea whether I would react or not and it was actually quite difficult to think about such an old memory during the eye movements!

Session 1
On my first session of EMDR, it took a while before I started to react. I started to sit as if paralysed, I could only look straight forward and talked more slowly because it felt like I was put into a hypnotic state of mind. I then started to remember more of the trauma and I starting to breath faster even though it felt like I was holding my breath. My body was definitely starting to prepare for the trauma event memories and I felt very alert.

After that session, my brain continued to work with the trauma, which is expected. I could feel it because I was very alert, I was scared of being in a dark room and of some gloves I had because they are a symbol of a hand. During a work day, there was a potentially dangerous situation of a woman who was very threatening towards one of my colleagues, who reacted with aggression. I got extremely tense because of that and I was breathing like hell because I was ready to fight. It was a huge and shocking reaction I had and I couldnโ€™t talk properly because of my breathing, so I had to take 5 minutes break to calm myself.

Session 2
I had problems getting my mind to go back into the trauma so my therapist and I had a short break from the eye movements to relax and help me get back into it. After a while I started to react with the paralysed / hypnotic state of mind and quick breathing but within myself, it felt silent and it appears like I am not breathing. After a while, I wanted to move my arm but directly afterwards I regretted this because I immediately felt like I did something wrong. Later, I started to remember more, it was like a part of me was revisiting the traumatic event. It was very interesting to explore because I got new information about my trauma. After going deeper and deeper into the trauma my breathing got faster and faster and suddenly I felt like I was about to break down into tears. I continued for a few minutes more and then I stopped doing the eye movements because I got very sad, I was crying and then my breathing was changing to be very big and deep, from within my stomach. I could feel my bones in my back so much from the heavy breathing. During this, I experienced the most insane feelings inside of me whilst my tears were running freely.

I didnโ€™t understand at the time what happened because my brain was in the present and yet my body was reliving the trauma I had experienced. It was very hard to feel the trauma again. I thought that I must have looked like a person getting raped or tortured. It was a completely insane experience and afterwards I felt very confused about what happened and I asked my therapist to explain it to me.

Afterwards, I was extremely tired and my whole body felt very heavy. My muscles in my arms felt like they had lifted something way too heavy! I was also very alert and the rest of the day and the next 3-4 days, I was in this stressful state of mind. I would feel suddenly deep sorrow and tiredness several times a day without knowing why. It was literally like something was hurting inside me several times a day and like something wanted to come out of my body but I was with family, so I worked very hard to not break down and at the same time, I felt like I couldnโ€™t get the emotions out either. It was very confusing. I also started to not like high noises and I felt scared if there where many people too close around me, like when I was on public transport. I usually do not have such problems. I was still scared of darkness and sometimes I got scared without knowing why. One of the times I was scared I was thinking about the woman who had caused my trauma.

I felt like I didnโ€™t want to sleep after I have my nightmare about my trauma, because I was so scared!

Session 3
After 3 weeks, I was going to do EMDR again and I was very nervous and exciting about what would happened. The night before therapy I had a very short nightmare again which had not happened for around 10 years! This time, it was like I was further in the trauma event as compared to in the past, I had only ever dreamed as if I was at the beginning. In the nightmare some people were about to do something that I definitely didnโ€™t like and I was thinking โ€œstopโ€, so the nightmare ended extremely short. It felt like a few seconds but it was enough for me to feel again how I actually felt during the trauma event from years past. The next day, I was very stressed and actually scared.

During EMDR therapy session after this, I felt like my eyes were working against me, not wanting to participate. So I talked with my therapist about how I had completely closed down because of the nightmare. I didnโ€™t have huge reactions during that session nor the next 2 sessions. In the last EMDR session, I could nearly get the image of the trauma event in my mind and I no longer felt scared โ€“ it was as if the trauma no longer affected me as powerfully as before. Between the sessions, I have felt very bad mentally but one day, it was like gone completely and I felt much happier, more relaxed and not as chronically tense. I also stopped having problems sleeping in a dark room โ€“ in the past, a completely dark room signalled that the re-lived trauma would occur.

In the past and prior to doing EMDR therapy, I would get anxiety from the outside getting dark, or having many people around me and high noises. Now all of these things are no longer a problem so I feel like I can go on living as myself once again. My friends have also told me that I seem more relaxed and most importantly, I feel a huge difference in my life!

I can highly recommend EMDR therapy for adoptees especially when it comes to trauma that the body remembers. I feel like I have healed my body and let out a terrible experience. Before EMDR therapy, I didnโ€™t understand that my body was reliving such huge trauma all the time and how much it was impacting me.

์ž์›

์ž…์–‘์ธ์œผ๋กœ์„œ ์˜ฌ๋ฐ”๋ฅธ ์น˜๋ฃŒ๋ฒ• ์ฐพ๊ธฐ

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ํฌ๊ธฐ์™€ ์ž…์–‘์— ๋‚ด์žฌ๋œ ํŠธ๋ผ์šฐ๋งˆ

์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ๋” ๋งŽ์€ ๋Œ€์ค‘์—๊ฒŒ ๋‹ค๊ฐ€๊ฐ€๊ณ  ํฌ๊ธฐ์™€ ์ž…์–‘์˜ ๊ณ ์œ ํ•œ ํŠธ๋ผ์šฐ๋งˆ์™€ ์†์‹ค์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๊ต์œกํ•˜๋ ค๋ฉด ๊ฐˆ ๊ธธ์ด ๋ฉ‰๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋ฅผ ์ง€์›ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์ž…์–‘์— ๊ตญํ•œ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ๊ณต๊ฐ„์— ์—ฐ๊ฒฐํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€๋ฅผ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ์ตœ๊ทผ์— ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•œ ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์กฐ์ง์— ์Šคํ…”๋ผ ์™ธ์ƒ ํ›„ ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค ์žฅ์• (PTSD)์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์˜ํ•™์  ์น˜๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ์ œ๊ณตํ•˜๋Š” ์„ฑ์ƒ ์‹ ๊ฒฝ์ ˆ ๋ธ”๋ก(SGB). ์ผ๋ถ€ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์—๊ฒŒ ํšจ๊ณผ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์„์ง€ ๋ˆ„๊ฐ€ ์•Œ๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ํฌ๊ธฐ๋กœ ์ธํ•œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ํŠธ๋ผ์šฐ๋งˆ๋Š” ์ข…์ข… ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์•„์ด๋‚˜ ์•„๊ธฐ์—๊ฒŒ ์ผ์–ด๋‚ฌ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์–ธ์–ด๊ฐ€ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ๋งŽ์€ ์ž…์–‘์ธ๋“ค์ด ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์ง„ํ–‰์ค‘์ธ ์ •์„œ์  ์ง€๋ขฐ๋ฐญ์„ ์•ˆ๋„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์น˜๋ฃŒ๋ฒ•์ด๋‚˜ ์˜ต์…˜์„ ๋Š์ž„์—†์ด ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. SGB๋Š” ์ง€์†์ ์ธ ํŠธ๋ผ์šฐ๋งˆ๋กœ ์ธํ•œ ํˆฌ์Ÿ/๋„ํ”ผ ๋ฐ˜์‘์„ ์•ฝํ™”์‹œํ‚ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ „์ œ๋กœ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์Šคํ…”๋ผ์˜ ์ˆ˜์„ ์‹ฌ๋ฆฌํ•™์ž, ๋‹ฅํ„ฐ ์ƒค์šฐ๋‚˜ ์Šคํ”„๋ง๊ฑฐ ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ํŒŒํŠธ๋„ˆ์‹ญ ์ฑ…์ž„์ž์ธ Valerie Groth๋Š” ๋‚˜์™€ ์ฑ„ํŒ…์„ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋น„๋””์˜ค๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ฒญํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€ ๋‘˜ ๋‹ค ์˜์‚ฌ๋กœ์„œ ํฌ๊ธฐ์™€ ์ž…์–‘์— ๋‚ด์žฌ๋œ ์™ธ์ƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ „ํ˜€ ๋ชฐ๋ž์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋‚˜์™€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋Œ€์ค‘ ๊ต์œก์„ ๋•๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์˜๊ฐ์„ ์–ป์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ด๊ฒƒ์„ ์ด‰์ง„ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์‹ค์‹œํ•œ 30๋ถ„์งœ๋ฆฌ ์งง์€ ํŒŸ์บ์ŠคํŠธ ์ธํ„ฐ๋ทฐ๋ฅผ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋ฏธ์ง€๋ฅผ ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ๋“ค์œผ์‹ค ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค ํŒŸ์บ์ŠคํŠธ.

์ž…์–‘์— ๋‚ด์žฌ๋œ ํŠธ๋ผ์šฐ๋งˆ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด๋ฏธ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์— ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‚ด์šฉ์ด ์ƒˆ๋กญ์ง€๋Š” ์•Š๊ฒ ์ง€๋งŒ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ์ฒซ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ํ•™์Šต์ž์˜ ๊ด€์ ์—์„œ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋˜๋Š” ํŒŸ์บ์ŠคํŠธ๋ฅผ ์›ํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋˜ํ•œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ปดํŒŒ์ผ๋œ ๋ฆฌ์†Œ์Šค ๋ชฉ๋ก ํŠธ๋ผ์šฐ๋งˆ์™€ ์ž…์–‘ ์‚ฌ์ด์˜ ์—ฐ๊ด€์„ฑ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋” ์•Œ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ด ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ์ถœ๋ฐœ์ ์œผ๋กœ์„œ ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ „๋ฌธ๊ฐ€๋กœ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ.

์ด๋ฆ„์— ๋ฌด์—‡์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?

~์— ์˜ํ•ด ์Šคํ…ŒํŒŒ๋‹ˆ ๊น€๋™ํฌ, ํ•œ๊ตญ์—์„œ ๋„ค๋œ๋ž€๋“œ๋กœ ์ฑ„ํƒ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๋ฆ„์€ ๊ทธ๋ƒฅ "ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ" ์ด๋ฆ„์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?

๋‹จ์–ด์™€ ์–ธ์–ด์˜ ์˜๋ฏธ๋Š” ๋ฌธ์ž, ๊ธฐํ˜ธ ๋˜๋Š” ์†Œ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋ชจ์Œ ๊ทธ ์ด์ƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ง๊ณผ ์†Œ๋ฆฌ์—๋Š” ์˜๋ฏธ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๊ณ , ์ด๋Š” ์ƒ์ง•์ด๋ฉฐ ๊ฐ์ •๊ณผ ์ƒ๊ฐ์„ ๋ฐ˜์˜ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋ฆ„์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์ •์ฒด์„ฑ์„ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋ƒ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์ด๋ฉฐ, ์–ด๋””์—์„œ ์™”์œผ๋ฉฐ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์†ํ•ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?

๋งŽ์€ ์ž…์–‘์ธ๊ณผ ์นœ๋ถ€๋ชจ ๋‘˜ ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜ ๋˜๋Š” ๋‘˜ ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜๋ฅผ ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ชจ๋“  ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•œ ๋‹ต์ด ์—†๋Š” ์งˆ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ๊น€์”จ ์ง‘์•ˆ์˜ ๋„ท์งธ ๋”ธ๋กœ ํ•œ๊ตญ ์–ด๋จธ๋‹ˆ ๋ฑƒ์†์—์„œ ์ธ๊ฐ„์œผ๋กœ ์ž‰ํƒœ๋˜์–ด ์„ฑ์žฅํ–ˆ๊ณ , ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ํƒœ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ  ๋‚˜์„œ ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜์€ ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ๋™ํฌ(๋™ํฌ)๋ผ๊ณ  ์ง€์—ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ๋„ค๋œ๋ž€๋“œ ๊ฐ€์ •์— ์ž…์–‘๋˜์–ด ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์ด๋ฆ„๊ณผ ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์„ฑ์„ ์–ป์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ตœ๊ทผ์— ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‚ด ์ •์ฒด์„ฑ์„ '๋ฎ์–ด์“ฐ๊ธฐ'ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋А๊ปด์ง€๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ๊ณ  ๋” ์ด์ƒ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๊ธฐ๋ถ„์ด ์ข‹์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋„ค๋œ๋ž€๋“œ์—์„œ ์ž๋ผ ๋„ค๋œ๋ž€๋“œ ๊ตญ์ ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง„ ํ•œ๊ตญ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๊ณผ ์ ์  ๋” ๊ฐ€๊นŒ์›Œ์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด ํ•œ๊ตญ์˜ ์ •์ฒด์„ฑ์€ ๋‚ด ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์ด๋ฉฐ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ ๋ฌธํ™”์—์„œ ์ž๋ผ์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Œ์—๋„ ๋ถˆ๊ตฌํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‚ด ๋ชจ์Šต์˜ ํฐ ๋ถ€๋ถ„์„ ํ˜•์„ฑํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚ด ์ด๋ฆ„์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋А๋‚Œ๊ณผ ๊ฐ€์กฑ ์ด๋ฆ„์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋А๋‚Œ ์‚ฌ์ด์—๋Š” ์•ฝ๊ฐ„์˜ ์ฐจ์ด๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ์–‘๋ถ€๋ชจ๊ฐ€ ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ์„œ ๋™ํฌ๋ฅผ ๋นผ์•—์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ๊ทธ์ € ์Šคํ…ŒํŒŒ๋‹ˆ๋ฅผ ๋”ํ•ด์„œ ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์—์„œ ๋” ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ์‚ด๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์ค€ ๊ฒƒ์— ๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•œ๋‹ค. ์ฐจ๋ณ„์ด ๋ช‡ ๋…„ ๋™์•ˆ ์‚ฌ๋ผ์ง€์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์˜ค๋Š˜๋‚ ์—๋Š” ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์„œ์–‘์‹ ์ด๋ฆ„์„ ๊ฐ–๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋” ์‰ฝ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ œ ํ˜ˆํ†ต๊ณผ ํ•œ๊ตญ ๋ฐฐ๊ฒฝ์ด ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ œ ์„ฑ์„ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์€ ๊ณณ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ ์  ๋” ๋А๋ผ๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ณ , ๊น€ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์˜ ์ผ์›์ด ๋œ ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ž๋ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฝ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ์ด ์ด๋ฆ„๊ณผ ์ด ์ด๋ฆ„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™” ๋ฐ ์ƒ๋ฌผํ•™์  ๊ฐ€์กฑ ์—ญ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๋„ค๋œ๋ž€๋“œ ์„ฑ ์ด๋ฆ„๊ณผ์˜ ์—ฐ๊ด€์„ฑ์„ ๋œ ๋А๋‚๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜ํ•œ, ์–‘์•„๋ฒ„์ง€์™€ ํ˜•์ œ ์™ธ์—๋Š” ๊ทธ ๊ฐ€์กฑ๋“ค๊ณผ ๋งŽ์€ ์ ‘์ด‰์ด๋‚˜ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ์ด ๋œ ์ ์ด ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์†Œ์…œ ๋ฏธ๋””์–ด๋ฅผ ์‹œ์ž‘์œผ๋กœ ํ•œ๊ตญ ์ด๋ฆ„์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ์•Œ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ์ต์ˆ™ํ•ด์ง€๊ธฐ๋กœ ๊ฒฐ์‹ฌํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ผ์„ ๊ฒฝํ—˜ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด, ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ๋” ๋งŽ์ด ๋А๋ผ๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์ค€๋‹ค๋ฉด.

์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๋‚ด ์ด๋ฆ„์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ถ€๋ฅผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์–ด๋–ค ์ด๋ฆ„์ด ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์ธ์ง€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋งŽ์ด ์ƒ๊ฐ๋‚˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์ง‘์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋А๋ผ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š” ์ด๋ฆ„์„ ๋ถ„๋ฅ˜ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‘˜ ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜์ผ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๊ณ  ๋‘˜ ๋‹ค์ผ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒฐ๊ณผ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๊ดœ์ฐฎ๋‹ค.

์žฌํ‚ท์„ ๋ฒ—๋Š” ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์•„์„œ ์กฐ๊ธˆ ๋…ธ์ถœ๋˜๊ณ  ์ทจ์•ฝํ•œ ๋А๋‚Œ์ด ๋“ค๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์–ด๋–ค ๋ฉด์—์„œ๋Š” ๋ถˆํŽธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ 42๋…„ ์ด์ƒ ๋™์•ˆ ๋„ค๋œ๋ž€๋“œ ์ด๋ฆ„์œผ๋กœ ์ž์‹ ์„ ์‹๋ณ„ํ•ด์™”๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

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์ด๋ฆ„์— ๋ฌด์—‡์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ์ •์ฒด์„ฑ, ์กด์ค‘, ์†Œ์œ ๊ถŒ?

๋‚˜์˜ ์ž…์–‘์ธ ์—ฌ์ •

~์— ์˜ํ•ด ์•ˆ๋‚˜ ๊ทธ๋ฃฌ๋“œ์ŠคํŠธ๋กฌ, ์ธ๋„๋„ค์‹œ์•„์—์„œ ์Šค์›จ๋ด์œผ๋กœ ์ฑ„ํƒ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ž…์–‘์„ ์—ฌํ–‰์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ๋ชฉ์ ์ง€๋กœ ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ ์˜ค๋ž˜๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ณณ๊นŒ์ง€ ๊ฐ”๊ณ , ์ดˆ๊ธฐ์—๋Š” ๊ทธ ์ด์œ ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋‹ต์ด ๊ฒฐ์ฝ” ์—†์„ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ถ„๋ช…ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด ์งˆ๋ฌธ์€ ๋’ท์ขŒ์„์œผ๋กœ ์˜ฎ๊ฒจ์ ธ ๋ช‡ ๋…„ ๋™์•ˆ ๊ฑฐ๊ธฐ์— ๋จธ๋ฌผ๋ €๊ณ , ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐํ•˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ•œ ํƒ€๊ธฐ, ๋‚ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์‹œ์ž‘์„ ๊ด€์ฐฐํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์•ฝ 2๋…„ ์ „์ฏค์— ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ๋“  ๋’ท์ขŒ์„์—์„œ ์šด์ „์„์œผ๋กœ ์˜ฎ๊ฒจ ๋‘ ์†์„ ํ•ธ๋“ค์— ์–น์—ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด ์งˆ๋ฌธ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋‹ต์€ ์•„์ง ์—†์ง€๋งŒ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์งˆ๋ฌธํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ๋ฌป๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํ•ญ์ƒ ๊ทธ ๋Œ€๊ฐ€๋กœ ์˜ค๋‹ต์ด๋‚˜ ์ •๋‹ต, ์‹ฌ์ง€์–ด ๋‹ต์„ ์–ป๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹˜์„ ์ดํ•ดํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌป๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‚˜ ์ž์‹ , ๋‚ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์ƒ๊ฐ๊ณผ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ธ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ๊ด€ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํฐ ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋กœ ๋†€๋ผ๊ณ , ํ™”๋‚ด๊ณ , ํ™”๋‚ด๊ณ , ์ขŒ์ ˆํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ํ—ˆ๋ฝํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌผ๊ฑด, ์žฅ์†Œ ๋ฐ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ์†์‹ค์„ ์ธ์‹ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋•Œ๋กœ๋Š” ๋‹ต์ด ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋ฏธ๋ฌ˜ํ•ด์„œ ๊ฑฐ์˜ ๋†“์น  ๋ป”ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์•„์นจ์— ํ•ด๊ฐ€ ์ฒ˜์Œ ๋– ์˜ค๋ฅผ ๋•Œ ๋ˆˆ๋ฌผ์„ ํ˜๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ์•„์ฐจ๋ฆฌ๊ฑฐ๋‚˜, ์ž„์˜์˜ ํ–ฅ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์ด๋งˆ์‹ค ๋•Œ ํŠน์ •ํ•œ ๊ฐˆ๋ง์ด ์ฒ™์ถ”๋ฅผ ๋‚ด๋ ค์น˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ž…์–‘์ธ์œผ๋กœ์„œ ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ์˜ ์ƒ์‹ค์„ ์ธ์‹ํ•˜๊ณ , ์ด๋ฆ„์„ ์ง€์ •ํ•˜๊ณ , ๊ตฌํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์—๋Š” ๋ญ”๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด์œ ์™€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์•Œ์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋”๋ผ๋„ ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ชธ์˜ ์–ด๋”˜๊ฐ€์— ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ชธ์˜ ์–ด๋”˜๊ฐ€์— ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ถ•ํ•˜ํ•˜๊ณ , ์Šฌํผํ•˜๊ณ , ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ชจ๋‘ ์ œ ์ž…์–‘์ธ ์—ฌ์ •์˜ ์ผ๋ถ€์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

Anna๋Š” ์ž…์–‘์ธ์„ ์œ„ํ•œ Guided Movement ๋ฐ Creative ์›Œํฌ์ƒต์„ ์ œ๊ณตํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ํ™•์ธํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค. ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š”์ง€ ๋ณด๋ ค๋ฉด!

์ž…์–‘์ธ ์ƒ์ผ

~์— ์˜ํ•ดย ๋งˆ๋ฅด์Šค, ํ•„๋ฆฌํ•€์—์„œ ์บ๋‚˜๋‹ค๋กœ ๊ฐ€์ ธ์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. Maars @BlackSheepMaars๋ฅผ ํŒ”๋กœ์šฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ž…์–‘์ธ์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ์ƒ์ผ์ด ์–ด๋ ต์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ์ƒ๋ช…์ด ์ฃผ์–ด์ง„ ๋‚ ์„ ์ƒ๊ธฐ์‹œํ‚ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์–ด๋จธ๋‹ˆ์™€ ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๊ฐ€ ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ๋งŒ ๊ฟˆ๊ฟ€ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ๋˜ ์ผ์„ ์ƒ๊ธฐ์‹œ์ผœ์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ์ž…์–‘์—์„œ ๊ทธ ๊ฟˆ์€ ์ผ์‹œ์ ์ด๊ณ  ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ๋ˆ„๊ตฐ๊ฐ€๊ฐ€ ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ๊ฟˆ์„ ๊พธ์ง€๋งŒ ๊ฒฐ์ฝ” ๋ณด์žฅ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฟˆ์ด ๊ฐ™์€ ์˜๋„์™€ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉฐ ์นœ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋ฅผ ์žƒ์€ ์ €์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ ๋ฉด์—์„œ ์‚ฌ์‹ค์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด์ œ ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‚˜ ์ž์‹ ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ฟˆ์„ ๊พธ๊ณ , ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฐ”๋กœ ๋‚˜ ์ž์‹ ์„ ๋˜์ฐพ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

34๋…„์ด ์ง€๋‚œ ์˜ค๋Š˜์„ ๋Œ์ด์ผœ๋ณด๋ฉด, ๋‚˜๋Š” ์•„์ง๋„ ๊ทธ ์•„์ด๊ฐ€ ์ž๊ธฐ๋ณด๋‹ค ์•ž์„œ๊ฒŒ ๋  ์ค„์€ ๋ชฐ๋ž๋˜ ๊ทธ ๋ฏธ์†Œ๋ฅผ ์ง€์œผ๋ฉฐ ๊ทธ ์•„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์Šฌํ”„๊ฒŒ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์„ธ์›”์ด ํ๋ฅด๋ฉด์„œ ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ๋งŽ์€ ์ƒ์‹ค๊ณผ ์Šฌํ””์„ ๊ทน๋ณตํ•ด์•ผ ํ–ˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ํƒœ์–ด๋‚œ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์„ ์žƒ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ๊ตฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ๋”๋ผ๋ฉด ์ข‹์•˜์„ ํ…๋ฐ. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ๊ฒช์„ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ณ ํ†ต์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์ˆœ๊ฐ„์—์„œ ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ๊ตฌํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ๊ณ , ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ์นœ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ์šธ๋ถ€์ง–์„ ๋•Œ๋งˆ๋‹ค ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ์•ˆ์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์—ˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด ์ข‹์•˜์„ ํ…๋ฐ. ์–ธ์  ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๋ชจ๋“  ์กฐ๊ฐ์„ ๋‹ค์‹œ ์ฐพ์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ณ  ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์œ ํ˜•์˜ ์Šฌํ””์„ ๊ฒช๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ณด์žฅํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ฑฐ๊ธฐ์— ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜ค๋Š˜ ์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ๋…€์™€ ์ €๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•ด ์•„๊ธฐ Maars์™€ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋” ์ด์ƒ ๋ถ™์žก์„ ํ•„์š”๊ฐ€ ์—†๋Š” ์ƒ์ฒ˜๋ฅผ ๊ณ„์† ์น˜์œ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ํ˜„์žฌ์˜ ํ‰ํ™”์™€ ํ–‰๋ณต์„ ์ฐพ์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๋ž๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ฒฐ์ฝ” ๊ทน๋ณตํ•˜์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋“ค, ์–ด๋–ค ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์€ ํ•ญ์ƒ ํ‘œ๋ฉด์œผ๋กœ ๋“œ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ด๋–ค ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์€ ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด ์ง€๋‚˜๋ฉด ์น˜์œ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ƒ์ผ ์ถ•ํ•˜ํ•ด ์•„๊ธฐ Maars, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ž˜ ์ง€๋‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์–ด!

Maars์˜ ์ตœ๊ทผ ๋ธ”๋กœ๊ทธ๋ฅผ ํ™•์ธํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค. ์ฑ„ํƒ ์‹œ ๋งŽ์€ ์†์‹ค

์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ˆ˜์—” ๋นŒ๋Ÿฐ๋“œ

2022๋…„ 4์›” 3์ผ, 19๋ช…์˜ ํ˜ธ์ฃผ ๊ตญ์ œ ์ž…์–‘์ธ ๊ทธ๋ฃน์ด ํ˜ธ์ฃผ ์ธ๊ถŒ ์œ„์›ํšŒ(AHRC)๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•œ ICAV ์ž๋ฌธ์— ์ฐธ์—ฌํ•˜์—ฌ ๋‹ค์Œ์„ ๊ฐœ๋ฐœํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ปจ์…‰ ํŽ˜์ดํผ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ตญ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐ˜์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„ ํ”„๋ ˆ์ž„์›Œํฌ. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์˜ ๋ชจ๋“  ์ž…์–‘ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€์˜ ์ธ์ข… ํ† ๋ก ์—์„œ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ„/์ดˆ์ธ์ข… ์ž…์–‘์ธ์ด ๊ณผ์†Œ ๋Œ€ํ‘œ๋˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐœ์–ธ๊ถŒ์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€ ํ™•์ธํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹ค์Œ ๋ช‡ ๊ฐœ์˜ ๋ธ”๋กœ๊ทธ๋Š” ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ƒ์ƒํ•œ ๊ฒฝํ—˜๊ณผ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋” ์ž˜ ์ง€์›ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ์ผ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ƒ๊ฐ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋ฏธ๋ฌ˜ํ•œ ํ†ต์ฐฐ๋ ฅ์„ ์ œ๊ณตํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์ฐธ์—ฌํ•œ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ์„ ๋ณ„ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

~์— ์˜ํ•ด ์ˆ˜์—” ๋นŒ๋ฃฌ๋“œ, adopted from Vietnam to Australia, ICAV VIC Representative

Racism is here to stay. It is enmeshed in the very fabric of society, at every level. It manifests within us as individuals, at a systemic level pervading our policies and practices, reflected in our interpersonal behaviours and is accumulated and compounded in the base structures of our history, culture and ideology.

In order to mitigate the harm caused by racism we must be actively anti-racist. It is not enough to merely be โ€œnot racistโ€, as this, often results in a passive racism, which is as equally toxic as overt racism. Tolerance is a poor substitute for acceptance. Tolerance offers tokenism and indifference. Acceptance offers a place for all voices, a public validation as individuals and a genuine place at the table to self-determination.

Every person carries their racial biases differently. Acknowledgment of these biases on a personal individual level is important, however being open to listening, validating and accepting the experiences of others takes courage.ย 

My expectation within this forum, is to offer to an opportunity to broaden the discussion of anti-racism to embrace all forms and manifestations of racism within Australian society today. To offer encouragement to address the complex โ€œgreyโ€ zones of racism. Through this broadening a more mature collective and inclusive voice will evolve, which I believe Australia is ready to share with the world.

The foundations of my identity lie amongst the chaos of war time Vietnam 1974. Within the first 3 weeks of my life, I experienced my initiation into the full audio and aromatic reality of war, surrounded by screaming and traumatised children and adults. Racial identity did not protect any of us from the horrors, what we all absorbed would remain forever with us as visceral burdens to tame. War and terror are the greatest levellers in stripping even the bravest to the very foundations of humanity. And then in one swift spin of the planet I would find myself a world away in the eerie quiet and calmness of Perth, Western Australia. This journey would also mark the beginning of a lifeโ€™s self-education of racial fluidity. Being one heart and soul, but a chameleon of racial identities. Born of one culture, raised in another, looking as though I belong to one group, but in at my core, I belong to another, the duplicity and fluidity is complex and exhausting.

The need to feel safe, accepted, understood and validated seems to be a naturally human pursuit. As an intercountry adoptee the journey is complex and confusing. We slip into the cracks of racial stereotypes offering up apologetically a reason for inclusion or explanation for exclusion. Either way no matter where we are in our communities we are an anomaly. We are constantly offered up as a reminder that a book shouldnโ€™t be judged by its cover and if you care to listen carefully, you will hear the simple request for safety and acceptance.

My childhood cultural identity was shaped through the lens of middle class suburban 1970โ€™s Australia. It was fortunate that the primary school I went to attracted a good proportion of Asian immigrant families. This enabled me, at a young age to observe the โ€œotherโ€ type of Asian. The Asian person who spoke the language, ate the food, complied with the Asian cultural norms, while they themselves were carving out the unique existence in post โ€œWhite Australia Policyโ€ era. It was clear to me from the very beginning that I was an โ€œAsian variantโ€. I was to experience racial prejudice from all sides. My immediate family comprised of a white Australian adoptive mother, a white Dutch (first generation migrant) adoptive father and their two biological white sons. Straddling my home and school environments I began to acknowledge the fragmented racial identity which was uniquely mine.

I would learn to instinctively navigate the pros and cons of racial profiling expressed by adults and classmates. At times it afforded me a shield to hide behind, at other times it just bewildered me at how ignorant and entitled people could be.ย 

Teachers would regard me with the marginalising stereotype of female Asian student, this meant that no matter what I did, or didnโ€™t do, I was considered polite, conscientious and studious. This enabled me to glide through my studies relatively smoothly. Where this backfired was when I would be herded together with all the Asian โ€œlook-a-likesโ€ to be given special instructions in Chinese/Cambodian/Vietnamese. There were always a few of us that would simply shrug our shoulders, knowing it was too hard to explain to the teachers that English was in fact our only language.ย 

Classmate interactions were more complex. While they seemed to want to flex their insecurities through bullying behaviours, I suspect they would often leave these bullying interactions more confused and with increased insecurities about themselves. They would corner me and spit out racial slurs โ€œChing Chong!โ€, โ€œGo back to where you came from!โ€, โ€œAsians out!โ€ with the standard accompanying slanted eye gesture. I learnt very early to lean into the bullying. To not turn away in shame or embarrassment, I summoned theย  airs of entitlement I learnt from my white Australian family. It was an educational opportunity. I would not show weakness. So armed with a vocabulary not generally associated with a small Asian female of 11 years I would lean in and say with a perfect Aussie twang, โ€œGet f***ed you immature ignorant bigot!โ€ While they processed the response in stunned silence, I was already half down the hall or across the oval. When I think back to those times, I know in my heart I still hold a deep resentment toward those who racially vilified me. The fact I could still name those individuals today shows how deeply it affected me. I built a wall to protect myself, a tough persona that would later in life be softened with self-depreciating humour.ย 

Humour has become one of the most powerful tools for disarming awkwardness though it should be noted that humour can only be genuinely offered by me (the vilified) otherwise it can have the effect of adding insult or increasing alienation.

Australian society in general is getting better at navigating racially blended families. However, there have been times where an awkward visual double take or racial slur has been reconsidered once formal introductions have concluded.ย 

For example, my adoptive mother is the personified โ€œwhite saviourโ€ heroine and therefore in this narrative, I embody the role of a grateful saved soul. There is no place in this narrative version for reality and it only serves to perpetuate the stereotypes. This distilled classification of our relationship as an adoptive mother and daughter has resulted in a chasm of empathy where my experience of racial prejudice and marginalisation cannot be reconciled with my adoptive motherโ€™s version of my lived experience. She cannot/will not acknowledge that I have/do experience any racial prejudice. Itโ€™s unfathomable and therefore remains a taboo subject between us. I would suggest a classic case of โ€œcolour blindnessโ€ which is the most common manifestation of passive racism. Let me strongly suggest that racial โ€œcolour blindnessโ€ is not a positive construct to build a relationship in. I donโ€™t advocate for a monochrome world. It cancels out important conversations that need to be had to build empathy and understanding. It bypasses the integral act of individual and collective validation.

A typical interaction in a social setting with my white husband, would start with a few awkward glances while people assessed my proficiency in English. Once the conversation has warmed up a little, the question is always asked โ€œHow did you two meet each other?โ€ At this point all newbies begin listening in the hope to hear some spectacular Tinder dating app story with me gaining Australian citizenship when we married. Sad to say the story takes an epic sad tone when it is revealed I was a baby from the Viet Nam war. The conversation moves very quickly from one set of stereotypes to another. The chameleon game is afoot. We have now moved into the Viet Nam war genre and to be honest the racial stereotypes are just as nauseating. As the conversation peters out, I am left with a very uncomfortable feeling that I might be the daughter of a B-Grade war romance story of a soldier and prostitute but on the positive side, I have ruled out that I am a โ€œmail order brideโ€ from Asia desperate to get my claws into a rich white โ€œsugar daddyโ€. Either way, I always leave these gatherings feeling like I have shared way too much about myself, simply to justify my equal status at the table of white Australians. Needless to say, itโ€™s exhausting and incredibly invasive. At times my inner evil chameleon just wants to re-enforce the stereotypes rather than use my life as an education case study. In the end I see curiosity is better than fear and putting examples forward and building knowledge is a slow continuous but necessary journey.

With regards to my children, I am conscious that they physically are racially ambiguous. They could have genetic origins from various backgrounds, but once I stand next to them then it becomes evident their dark features come from me and they are of Asian origins. My daughter has experienced racial slurs from having an Asian looking mother. It wasnโ€™t until she spent her gap year in Viet Nam that she developed her own understanding of her origins. She has in fact spent more time in Viet Nam than me.ย 

School parent social groups are an interesting micro society and navigating them is a full-time job. In the private school my children attended I had two very distinct social groups that I interacted with. One was a group of Asian looking mothers where I felt like an honouree member. I learnt Asian cultural things and etiquette that I didnโ€™t get elsewhere. I did a lot of listening. The other group were all Anglo-Saxon looking mothers and I was dubbed the โ€œtokenโ€ Asian (humorous chameleon!) These girlfriends understood how I saw the world. Itโ€™s in these situations that I reflect on the sophistication of my chameleon gift and in a positive moment reflect on the bridges I can construct between the groups just through listening and sharing.

There is a niche and powerful position that intercountry adoptees have in the conversation around racism and prejudice. Itโ€™s borne from the hybrid and fluid nature of our self-identities. We exist in the space between cultures and races. The triumphal story of our survival is in fact a narrative of weaving together of cultures, racial identity, tolerance and acceptance. Intercountry adoptees must reconcile the disparity between the physical and internal nature of racial identity, because at every turn we are challenging the stereotypes and presumptions. As an Asian in white Australia, we challenge the mainstream colonial stereotypes, as an Asian in Asia, we find ourselves challenging the long-held stereotypes in our birth culture. We belong to both yet neither wholly.ย 

๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ํ˜ธ์ฃผ์˜ ๋งฅ๋ฝ์—์„œ ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์˜ ๋ฏธ๋ž˜๋ฅผ ๊ณ ๋ คํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด, ๋‚˜๋Š” ์ •๋ถ€์™€ ๊ฐœ์ธ์ด ๋ณต์žก์„ฑ์„ ์ˆ˜์šฉํ•˜๋„๋ก ๊ณ„์†ํ•ด์„œ ๋„์ „์„ ์ œ๊ธฐํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์ฐพ๊ณ , ํ”Œ๋žซํผ์„ ๋งŒ๋“ค๊ณ , ๋‚™๊ด€์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ฆฌ๋“œํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค. ์ •๋ถ€์™€ ๊ธฐ๊ด€์˜ ์ •์ฑ…๊ณผ ๊ด€ํ–‰์— ๋‚ด์žฌ๋œ ์ฒด๊ณ„์ ์ธ ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์ฃผ์˜๊ฐ€ ๋ณ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ฃผ๋„ํ•˜๋„๋ก ์ง€์†์ ์œผ๋กœ ์˜๋ฌธ์„ ์ œ๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ฒ€ํ† ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ฃผ๋ฅ˜ ์‹ฑํฌํƒฑํฌ๋ฅผ ๊ณ ์ •์‹œํ‚ค๋Š” ๊ตฌ์กฐ์  ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์ฃผ์˜๋ฅผ ํ”๋“ค์–ด ๋†“์•„์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ถˆํŽธํ•˜๊ณ  ์–ด๋ ค์šด ์ผ์ด์ง€๋งŒ ํ˜ธ์ฃผ๋Š” ์ด ์ผ์„ ๊ฐ๋‹นํ•  ๋งŒํผ ์ถฉ๋ถ„ํžˆ ์„ฑ์ˆ™ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐœ์ธ ๊ฐ„ ์ธ์ข… ์ฐจ๋ณ„์ฃผ์˜๋Š” ๊ตญ์ œ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์œผ๋กœ์„œ ํƒ์ƒ‰ํ•˜๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ๋งค์šฐ ์–ด๋ ต์ง€๋งŒ ๊ณ ์ • ๊ด€๋…์—์„œ ๋Œ€์ฒด ํ˜„์‹ค์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•  ์ˆ˜์žˆ๋Š” ์ž์œ ๋Š” ๊ตฌ์ถ•ํ•˜๊ธฐ์— ์ข‹์€ ํ”Œ๋žซํผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด๋ฉดํ™”๋œ ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์€ ๋ฌด๋ฏธ๊ฑด์กฐํ•˜๊ณ  ๋งค์šฐ ํ•ด๋กญ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ˆ˜๋™์ ์ธ ๊ด€์šฉ์—์„œ ๊ฐœ์ธ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋Šฅ๋™์ ์ธ ํ™•์ธ์œผ๋กœ ์ด๋™ํ•˜๊ณ ์ž ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.ย 

์—ฐ๊ตฌ์™€ ์ž๋ฌธ์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ์ดˆ๋‹น์  ์ •์น˜ ์ง€์›์€ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ธ ์‚ฌํšŒ ๋ณ€ํ™”์— ์ฐธ์—ฌํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•œ ํ•„์ˆ˜ ํˆฌ์ž์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ฑ…์ž„์„ฑ๊ณผ ๋ฌด๊ฒฐ์„ฑ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ์ฃผ์š” ์ด์ •ํ‘œ๋ฅผ ๊ฒ€ํ† ํ•˜๊ณ  ํ‰๊ฐ€ํ•˜๋ ค๋Š” ํ™•๊ณ ํ•œ ๋…ธ๋ ฅ์ด ํ•„์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋Œ€์ค‘ ์ธ์‹ ๋ฐ ์ฒญ์†Œ๋…„ ์ฐธ์—ฌ์™€ ๊ฒฐํ•ฉ๋œ ๊ต์œก ์ž์›์€ ๋ชจ๋“  ํ˜ธ์ฃผ์ธ์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ๋ณด๋‹ค ์„ฑ์ˆ™ํ•œ ๋ฏธ๋ž˜๋ฅผ ๊ฐœ๋ฐœํ•˜๋Š” ํ•ต์‹ฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

Su-Yen์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ž์„ธํ•œ ๋‚ด์šฉ์€ ๊ทธ๋…€๋ฅผ ์ฝ์œผ์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค. ANZAC ๋ฐ์ด ๋ฆฌํ”Œ๋ ‰์…˜, ๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ๊ณตํ—Œ ์ด๋ฆ„์— ๋ฌด์—‡์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ์™€ ์˜นํ˜ธ ๊ทธ๋ฆฐ ์ƒ์›์˜์› ํšŒ์˜.

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ICAV ์ž‘์€ ๋ฐ์ดํ„ฐ ์ •๋ ฌ ์ฝ๊ธฐ ์ฑ„ํƒ๋œ ์ƒ‰๋งน

์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ฐœ๋น„ ๋ฒ ํด๋ฆฌ

2022๋…„ 4์›” 3์ผ, 19๋ช…์˜ ํ˜ธ์ฃผ ๊ตญ์ œ ์ž…์–‘์ธ ๊ทธ๋ฃน์ด ํ˜ธ์ฃผ ์ธ๊ถŒ ์œ„์›ํšŒ(AHRC)๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•œ ICAV ์ž๋ฌธ์— ์ฐธ์—ฌํ•˜์—ฌ ๋‹ค์Œ์„ ๊ฐœ๋ฐœํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ปจ์…‰ ํŽ˜์ดํผ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ตญ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐ˜์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„ ํ”„๋ ˆ์ž„์›Œํฌ. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฑฐ์˜ ๋ชจ๋“  ์ž…์–‘ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€์˜ ์ธ์ข… ํ† ๋ก ์—์„œ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ„/์ดˆ์ธ์ข… ์ž…์–‘์ธ์ด ๊ณผ์†Œ ๋Œ€ํ‘œ๋˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐœ์–ธ๊ถŒ์„ ๊ฐ–๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€ ํ™•์ธํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‹ค์Œ ๋ช‡ ๊ฐœ์˜ ๋ธ”๋กœ๊ทธ๋Š” ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ƒ์ƒํ•œ ๊ฒฝํ—˜๊ณผ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋” ์ž˜ ์ง€์›ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ์ผ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ƒ๊ฐ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋ฏธ๋ฌ˜ํ•œ ํ†ต์ฐฐ๋ ฅ์„ ์ œ๊ณตํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์ฐธ์—ฌํ•œ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ์„ ๋ณ„ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

~์— ์˜ํ•ด ๊ฐœ๋น„ ๋ฒ ํด๋ฆฌ, ์Šค๋ฆฌ๋ž‘์นด์—์„œ ํ˜ธ์ฃผ๋กœ ์ž…์–‘๋œ ์ž„์ƒ ์‚ฌํšŒ ๋ณต์ง€์‚ฌ.

์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์— ๋ฐ˜๋Œ€ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ชจ๋‘์˜ ์ฑ…์ž„์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค

๋‚˜๋Š” ์ด ์„ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ์‚ด๊ณ , ๊ฑท๊ณ , ์ˆจ์‰ฌ๋Š” 40๋…„ ๋™์•ˆ ๋งค์šฐ ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ํ˜•ํƒœ์˜ ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์„ ๊ฒฝํ—˜ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋งŽ์€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์ณค์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ชจ๋‘ ๊ธฐ๋กํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ๋‚˜๋Š” ์ž๋ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์œ ์ƒ‰์ธ์ข… ์—ฌ์„ฑ์œผ๋กœ์„œ ์ด ์ƒˆํ•˜์–€ ์„ธ์ƒ์„ ํ•ญํ•ดํ•˜๋ฉฐ ์ž๋ž์ง€๋งŒ, ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์ธ์ง€ ์ž๋ž‘์Šค๋Ÿฌ์›Œํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๋‚ด ์ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋œ ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ž๋ถ€์‹ฌ์„ ๋А๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ƒํ˜ธ ๋ฐฐํƒ€์ ์ธ ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ง€๊ธˆ๊นŒ์ง€์˜ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ง„ํ™”๋œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋˜๊ธฐ๊นŒ์ง€๋Š” ๋งŽ์€ ๋…ธ๋ ฅ๊ณผ ์˜ํ˜ผ ํƒ์ƒ‰, ์˜์‹์ ์ธ ๋ฐ˜์„ฑ์ด ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ ๋ฒˆ ํ•„์š”ํ–ˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ ๊ณ„์† ์ง„ํ–‰ ์ค‘์ธ ์ž‘์—…์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋งŽ์€ ๊ฐ€์กฑ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๊ฐ€์กฑ ์ „์ฒด๋ฅผ ๋ฐ˜์˜ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ ์‹œ๊ฐ„๊ณผ ์žฅ์†Œ์™€ ์—ฐ์‚ฌ์˜ ์„ธ๋Œ€์  ๋งฅ๋ฝ์—์„œ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ์ง€ ์ง€๊ธˆ ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์ง„ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์˜ค๋ž˜๋œ ๊ธฐ์–ต ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฐ€์กฑ ์ค‘ ํ•œ ๋ช…์ด "๋‚ด ์ด๋ฆ„์„ ๊ฐ€์ง„ ํ‘์ธ ์•„์ด๋Š” ์—†์„ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค!"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ผ๋‹จ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์˜ ํ’ˆ์— ์•ˆ๊ฒผ์„ ๋•Œ ๋ชจ๋“  ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์  ํ—›์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋ผ์กŒ๊ณ  ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์€ ๋Œ€์šฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฐ›์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์ž๋ผ๋ฉด์„œ ์ด ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ํฐ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘๊ณผ ์กด๊ฒฝ์‹ฌ์„ ๊ฐ–๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ๋ฌด์ง€๋ฅผ ์šฉ์„œํ•˜๊ณ  ํฌ๋ฆฌ์ผ“๊ณผ ํ‘ธํ‹ฐ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ณตํ†ต๋œ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์— ์ง‘์ค‘ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค!

๋‚˜๋Š” ์ดˆ๋“ฑํ•™๊ต ์‹œ์ ˆ์— ์•„์ง๋„ ์–ด์ œ ์ผ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๊ธฐ์–ตํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚ด ์ž์‹ ์„ ๊ณ ์ง‘ํ•˜๊ณ , ์ธ์ข… ์ฐจ๋ณ„์ ์ธ ๊ดด๋กญํž˜์„ ๋‹นํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ์ด์œ ๋กœ ์ •๊ฐ•์ด๋ฅผ ๊ฑท์–ด์ฐผ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ "๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‹น์‹ ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์€ ๋‚˜๋ผ์—์„œ ์˜จ ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ถ€๋„๋Ÿฝ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค."

๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์…€ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋ณด๋‹ค ๋” ๋งŽ์ด N ๋‹จ์–ด๋กœ ๋ถˆ๋ ธ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ํ‰์ƒ ๋™์•ˆ ๊ณต๊ณต์—ฐํ•˜๊ณ  ์€๋ฐ€ํ•˜๊ณ  ์˜๋„์ ์ด๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์˜๋„ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์ธ์ข… ์ฐจ๋ณ„์„ ๊ฒฝํ—˜ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์ฐฐ์— ์˜ํ•ด ์ธ์ข…์ ์œผ๋กœ ํ”„๋กœํ•„์ด ์ฐํ˜”๊ณ , ๊ฒฝ๋น„์›๋“ค์ด ์‡ผํ•‘ ์„ผํ„ฐ์—์„œ ์ด๋ฆฌ์ €๋ฆฌ ๋’ค๋ฅผ ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ "๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์–ด๋””์—์„œ ์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?" ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋‹น์‹ ์˜ "์ง„์งœ ๋ถ€๋ชจ"๋Š” ์–ด๋–ป์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ์ง์žฅ์—์„œ ์ผํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด "๋‹น์‹ ์˜ ์˜์–ด๋Š” ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์—์„œ ํƒœ์–ด๋‚˜์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์—๊ฒŒ ๋งค์šฐ ํ›Œ๋ฅญํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค"๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ•œ ์ ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์ƒ์‚ฌ๊ฐ€ ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์ž˜๋ชปํ–ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ธ์‹ํ–ˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ํ•œ ๋ฒˆ์— ๋ช‡ ๋‹ฌ ๋™์•ˆ ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ๋ง์„ ๊ฑธ์ง€ ์•Š์€ ์ ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์‚ฌ์‹ค์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋Š” ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์ฃผ์˜์ž์˜€์„ ๋ฟ์ด์—ˆ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ ์ง์žฅ์„ ๋– ๋‚˜ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ฟˆ๊พธ๋˜ ์ง์žฅ์— ๋ฐœ์„ ๋“ค์—ฌ๋†“๊ฒŒ ๋˜์–ด ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๊ธฐ๋ปค์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค!

ย ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์˜ ํƒœ๋„, ๋ถ„๋…ธ, ์‚ฌ์†Œํ•œ ์งˆํˆฌ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๊ฒฝ๋ ฅ์„ ์Œ“์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ธฐํšŒ๊ฐ€ ์ฃผ์–ด์ง€์ง€ ์•Š์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ณผ์†Œ ํ‰๊ฐ€๋˜๊ณ , ๋ฌด์‹œ๋˜๊ณ , ๊ณผ์†Œ ํ‰๊ฐ€๋˜์—ˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ ํ‰์ƒ ๋™์•ˆ ๋ณด์ง€ ๋ชปํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๋‚˜๋Š” ์•„๋งˆ๋„ ์‚ฌํšŒ ์‚ฌ์—…๊ณผ ์•ฝ์ž๋ฅผ ์œ„ํ•œ ํˆฌ์Ÿ์— ๋Œ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์‚ฌํšŒ์— ๋ฟŒ๋ฆฌ ๊นŠ๊ฒŒ ๋‚จ์•„ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ตฌ์กฐ์  ๋ถˆํ‰๋“ฑ์„ ํ•ด์ฒดํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‚˜๋Š” ์ „์‚ฌ์ด๊ณ , ์‚ฌํšŒ ์ •์˜ ์ „์‚ฌ์ด๋ฉฐ, ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์˜ ํ–‰๋™์— ๋ณ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ ธ์˜ค๊ณ  ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์น  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ํž˜์„ ๊ตณ๊ฒŒ ๋ฏฟ์œผ๋ฉฐ, ์นœ์ ˆ๊ณผ ๊ณต์ •ํ•œ ๋Œ€์šฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฏฟ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ๋‚˜์—๊ฒŒ ์–ด๋–ค ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์ณค์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ๊ธ€์Ž„, ๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‚ด ํ–‰๋™๊ณผ ๊ฒฐ์ •์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๊นŠ์ด ์ƒ๊ฐํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ฐ˜์„ฑํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์กฐ์ง€ ํ”Œ๋กœ์ด๋“œ, ํƒ€๋งˆ ๋ผ์ด์Šค, ๋ธŒ๋ฆฌ์•„๋‚˜ ํ…Œ์ผ๋Ÿฌ์˜ ์ž˜ ์•Œ๋ ค์ง„ ์‚ด์ธ ์‚ฌ๊ฑด ์ดํ›„๋กœ, ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์›์ฃผ๋ฏผ๋“ค์˜ ๋น„๊ทน์ ์ธ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ์žŠ์ง€ ์•Š๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด "๊ฒฝ์ฐฐ์— ์˜ํ•ด ์ œ์ง€๋˜๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ• ๊นŒ์š”?"๋ผ๋Š” ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ œ ์•„์ด๋“ค๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์•„๋ฌด๋„ ์ฑ…์ž„์ง€์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์ฑ…์ž„์ง€์ง€ ์•Š์€ ๊ตฌ๊ธˆ๋œ ๋ชจ๋“  ํ‘์ธ ์‚ฌ๋ง๊ณผ ์ฒญ์†Œ๋…„ ์ˆ˜๊ฐ์œจ์ด ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋†’์€ ๋ฏผ์กฑ. ์Šฌํ”„๊ณ  ํ™”๊ฐ€ ๋‚ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ์ œ ์•„์ด๋“ค๊ณผ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์ƒํ™ฉ์— ์‹ค๋ง์Šค๋Ÿฝ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ์ €๋Š” ํฌ๋ง์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ณ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ ธ์˜ค๋Š” ์ปค๋ฎค๋‹ˆํ‹ฐ๋ฅผ ๊ตฌ์ถ•ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ํฌ๋ง์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜์˜ ์—ด์ •์„ ๊ณต์œ ํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ๋ณ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ์ถ”๊ตฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋งˆ์Œ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค.

์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๋‚˜์˜ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์€ ๋‚˜ ์ž์‹ , ๋ถ€๋ชจ, ์‚ฌํšŒ๋ณต์ง€์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ํ˜•์„ฑํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‚˜์˜ ์ƒ๊ฐ, ํ–‰๋™, ํ–‰๋™์— ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์นฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‚˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๋‚˜๋ฅผ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋ณด๋Š”์ง€ ์—ผ๋‘์—๋‘๊ณ  ์ธ์ข… ์ฐจ๋ณ„์  ์ธ ๋ผ์ง€ ์•ž์—์„œ ์กด๊ฒฝ์‹ฌ์„ ํ‘œํ•˜๋ฉฐ ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์ˆ˜์ค€์œผ๋กœ ๋Œ์–ด ๋‚ด๋ฆฌ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๊ฑฐ๋ถ€ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ ์ œ ์ •์‹  ๊ฑด๊ฐ•์— ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์ณค๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋งŽ์€ ์ž๊ธฐ ํšŒ์˜๋ฅผ ์ผ์œผํ‚ค๊ณ  ์ด ์„ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ์ œ ์ž๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์ฐพ๋Š” ๋ฐ ์˜ํ–ฅ์„ ๋ฏธ์ณค์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ €์˜ ๊ตฌ์›์˜ ์€ํ˜œ ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜๋Š” ์นœ๊ฐ€์กฑ๊ณผ ๋ฌธํ™”์™€์˜ ์žฌํšŒ๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋“ค์„ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‚˜ ์ž์‹ ์„ ์•Œ๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค! ๋‚˜๋Š” ์ง€๋‚œ 22๋…„ ๋™์•ˆ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ์•Œ๊ณ , ์„ฑ์žฅํ•˜๊ณ , ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ ๋ณด๋ƒˆ๊ณ , ๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋‘ ์„ธ๊ณ„์˜ ์ผ๋ถ€์ด๊ณ  ๋‘ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ๋ชจ๋‘์—์„œ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์•‰์„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋…ํŠนํ•œ ์œ„์น˜์— ์•‰์•„ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค์— ๋งค์ผ ๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.ย 

๊ตญ์ œ/์ดˆ์ธ์ข… ์ž…์–‘์ธ์ด ๊ฒฝํ—˜ํ•˜๋Š” ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์„ ๋” ์ž˜ ํ•ด๊ฒฐํ•˜๋ ค๋ฉด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?

์ž…์–‘์ด ๊ผญ ์ฒซ ๋ฒˆ์งธ ์ˆ˜๋‹จ์ผ ํ•„์š”๋Š” ์—†๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ›„์›/๊ต์œก/์†Œ๋“ ์ฐฝ์ถœ ํ™œ๋™์„ ํ†ตํ•œ ์ง€์›์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ์ถœ์ƒ ๊ตญ๊ฐ€์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์กฑ์„ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ผ๋ฐ˜์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์—๊ฒŒ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ฏฟ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ž…์–‘์„ ํ•ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๋ฉด ๊ฐ€์กฑ๊ณผ์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํ•„์ˆ˜์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค! ์—ฌ๊ธฐ์—๋Š” ์นœ๋ถ€๋ชจ, ์ˆ™๋ชจ, ์‚ผ์ดŒ, ์‚ฌ์ดŒ, ์กฐ๋ถ€๋ชจ ๋ฐ ํ˜•์ œ ์ž๋งค๊ฐ€ ํฌํ•จ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์œ ์ƒ‰์ธ์ข…์„ ์ž…์–‘ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๊ด€๋ จํ•˜์—ฌ ์ž…์–‘์ธ์˜ ์ƒ๊ฐ๊ณผ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋” ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•  ํ•„์š”๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์—ญ์‚ฌ์™€ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ๊นŠ์ด ํŒŒ๊ณ ๋“ค์–ด ์ธ์ข…์ฐจ๋ณ„์˜ ์˜ํ–ฅ๊ณผ ๋ฐ˜์ธ์ข…์ฃผ์˜ ๋™๋งน/์˜นํ˜ธ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์—ฐ๋ก€ ๊ณผ์ •์„ ์ˆ˜๊ฐ•ํ•˜๋„๋ก ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์šฐ์ • ์„œํด์„ ์‚ดํŽด๋ณด๋ผ๊ณ  ์š”์ฒญํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค. ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ? ๋ฌธํ™”์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ ์ ˆํ•˜๊ณ  ์‚ฌํšŒ๊ฒฝ์ œ์ ์ด๋ฉฐ ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ์„ฑ๋ณ„์˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์„ ๋Œ€ํ‘œํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?

ํ›Œ๋ฅญํ•œ ์ง€์‹์—๋Š” ํฐ ์ฑ…์ž„์ด ๋”ฐ๋ฅธ๋‹ค๋Š” ํฌ๋ง์„ ํ’ˆ๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ์™€ ๊ฒฝํ—˜์„ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ชจ๋‘์˜ ์ผ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค!

Gabbie์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์ž์„ธํ•œ ๋‚ด์šฉ์€ ๋ช‡ ๋…„ ์ „์— ๊ณต์œ ๋œ ๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ๋…ผ๋ฌธ์„ ์ฝ์–ด๋ณด์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค. ์—ฐ๊ตฌ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€: ๊ตญ์ œ ์ž…์–‘์˜ ์ธ๊ถŒ ๋ฐ ์‚ฌํšŒ ์ •์˜

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