¿Ocurre justicia o rendición de cuentas en las adopciones ilícitas?

por Jessica Davis, Madre adoptiva estadounidense que devolvió a su hijo ugandés a su madre biológica en Uganda. Jessica ha escrito esta publicación en respuesta a la reciente declaración de “culpabilidad” del personal que trabaja en la agencia de adopción European Adoption Consultants (Ohio) que facilitó la adopción ilícita de un adoptado ugandés a la familia Davis. Artículo de medios aquí.

Han pasado muchos años desde que descubrimos la horrible verdad de que la niña que adoptamos de Uganda había sido separada ilegalmente de su familia. Desde que reuní a Namata con su madre, he estado esperando una apariencia de justicia y responsabilidad, especialmente cuando se trata de esta persona en particular.

Hoy, Debra Parris, uno de los delincuentes involucrados en el tráfico de Namata cambió su declaración de culpabilidad en cada acusación federal de la que fue acusada. Debra participó voluntariamente en la trata de niños de Uganda a través de la adopción internacional. Ella causó un daño irreparable a Namata, su madre ugandesa y nos hizo la vida miserable durante años mientras buscábamos exponerla a ella y a sus co-conspiradores. Ha infligido enormes cantidades de daño a MUCHOS niños ugandeses vulnerables y sus familias (y en muchos otros países, estoy seguro).

Solo escuchar su voz hoy fue abrumador y mucho menos escucharla finalmente admitir su culpa. Dado que me di cuenta de que lo que sucedió durante nuestra adopción no fue único, me comprometí a no perder la oportunidad de trabajar para cambiar la narrativa cuando se trata de la adopción internacional. Este momento no será diferente.

A aquellos que eligen creer que lo que les sucedió a Namata y su madre es el resultado de una sola “manzana podrida”, les ruego que se detengan. He trabajado con familias de Uganda durante más de 5 años y puedo decirles que lo que le pasó a Namata y su familia no es la excepción, sino la regla en la adopción internacional. Todas las familias ugandesas que he conocido, incluso las familias que utilizaron otras agencias de adopción, han tenido experiencias similares para compartir. Ninguna de las familias de origen entendió realmente la adopción, todas ellas estaban pasando por un momento difícil y solo necesitaban apoyo. Casi todos pensaron que estaban obteniendo acceso a una educación o atención médica para su ser querido. No digo que no haya excepciones, pero todavía tengo que conocer a una familia de Uganda que realmente entienda la adopción.

Como padre adoptivo, elegir mirar para otro lado o permanecer en silencio cuando se trata de estas injusticias lo convierte a USTED en parte del problema. Cuando me di cuenta de lo que estaba sucediendo con nuestra agencia de adopción, inmediatamente comencé a hablar con otros padres adoptivos que también los habían utilizado. Me dijeron una y otra vez que estaba exagerando, que esto no podía ser cierto, o que al menos no podía ser tan "malo" como afirmaba. Tengo la sensación de que incluso con esta admisión de culpabilidad, muchas familias adoptivas seguirán diciendo que no es cierto en su situación (lo que bien podría ser cierto) y seguirán con sus vidas, como si nada hubiera pasado.

Esta agencia de adopción facilitó la adopción de más de 30 niños ugandeses. Hoy Debra Parris admitió haber sobornado a oficiales de libertad condicional, registradores judiciales y jueces en Uganda. Admitió haber enviado a sabiendas información fraudulenta al Departamento de Estado de los EE. UU. En un esfuerzo por facilitar las adopciones ilícitas. Asumir que esto no sucedió en otras adopciones no solo es ingenuo sino un grave error judicial.

¿Cuántas familias biológicas y adultos adoptados han compartido experiencias similares? ¿Cuándo empezaremos a escuchar? ¿Cuándo se habrán dividido innecesariamente suficientes familias hasta que estemos dispuestos a hacer algo? ¿Cuándo nos importarán las vidas y el bienestar de estos “huérfanos” más allá de que sean adoptados?

Si bien hoy me regocijé por este pequeño paso hacia la rendición de cuentas por los males perpetuados contra muchos de los niños y familias más vulnerables de nuestro mundo, no pude evitar pensar en todas las familias ugandesas (y familias en todo el mundo) que esto ha tenido. le sucedió. Familias que probablemente nunca verán justicia o reparaciones, y mucho menos el ser querido del que fueron separados. No pude evitar pensar en todos los adoptados que fueron entregados entre familias como tarjetas coleccionables. Adoptados que son silenciados e ignorados cuando hablan sobre sus experiencias con la adopción. No puedo evitar pensar en todo el daño que se ha infligido innecesariamente a los adoptados y las familias biológicas porque este sistema parece demasiado fácil de explotar y corromper.

¿Cuándo es suficiente, suficiente?

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Para obtener más información de Jessica, lea sus blogs:
Adopción: ¿Limpio y ordenado? ¡No tanto!
La mentira que amamos
No es una atracción turística
No hay una crisis de huérfanos, es una crisis de separación familiar

2 respuestas a «Does Justice or Accountability Happen in Illicit Adoptions?»

  1. andestanley – Hi. I'm Ande. My name is pronounced On-dee. In 1999, I learned that my feelings over the years that something was a wee bit off in my family was ACTUALLY True. In my thirties, I accidentally discovered that I am an International, Stranger Adoption. Think adult woman locked in a restaurant handicapped stall, trembling, sobbing, dripping snot, wondering why her "mom" would consider a Fresh Choice an appropriate venue for confirming her suspicions. After returning home from that little humiliation, I began what I think of as The Great Paper Chase. This blog is about that chase. A little from the legal perspective, but primarily from the emotional and physical. Over the years, I managed to find a slew of clueless people, and a few well informed individuals, who helped me navigate applying for and receiving my paperwork. I encountered almost zero people able to help me with the arguably more important side of adoptee-dom. How do I cope with how all of this makes me FEEL? When I am feeling infantilized, what do I do? When I can hear my heart pounding in my ears and my head feels like it may explode into a hundred dangerous bone shards and a whole lot of squishy mess, how do I calm myself? Am I crazy for wanting my file, my original birth certificate, my proof of existence? How do I find the courage to open this damn envelope? Now that the envelope is open, what do all these squiggly lines actually mean?! Will I feel this guilt, fear, grief, shame, anger…forever?! I decided to start this blog as a way to explore the emotional and physical challenges of seeking our identities and adoption files, as part of community. I don't think of this as My blog. I think of The Adoption Files as Our blog. Our place to ask the questions, discuss the emotions, validate one another and plot the next steps in the journey. Along the way, I will share some of my experiences as a Late Discovery, International, Stranger Adoptee trying to make sense of the lies, the application forms, the attitudes and the consequences of reclaiming myself. I hope to hear from others as they apply for, receive or are denied thier paperwork, summon the courage to open those envelopes or emails, and read and reread the contents of those communications. I also hope to wheedle a few interviews with professionals in the legal and mental health and physical health communities who have valuable insights into how we, as Adopted people, can recognize the need for, implement and maintain healthy coping strategies so we can come through this process healthier and stronger than when we began. The goal is empowerment. The goal is also connection. Adoption life, what I think of as The In-Between, can be incredibly lonely. I have benefitted greatly in recent years from the discovery of this whole online world of Adoptees finding our voices and forming connections and sharing our stories. Every single one of them has helped me along the way, whether they know this is so or not. They amaze me every single day. If you are reading this, know that you are amazing. You are inspiring. You are not alone. We are United in more ways than we can imagine. Just one of those things that unite us is that we all have some form of paperwork, some absence of it, some document we are seeking. Now, let's talk about that paperwork.
    andestanley dice:

    I have so many thoughts about this article. I am very happy to hear that the Davises fought for the truth to come out about fraudulent Ugandan adoptions. At the same time, I notice that the language used to describe what happened talks about the Davis’ “child” being returned to her “biological mother”. I feel like this subtly (or not so subtly) reinforces the idea that the person deceitfully removed from their family in Uganda was somehow ever the Davis’. That any of the children trafficked in this way are the children of anyone other than the families they were stolen from. I believe that many, if not all, of the adoptive parents had good intentions, but if they continue to consider these children theirs when there is ample evidence of fraud ? I hope there is some mechanism that allows parents who lost their children to trace and have them returned to them.

  2. andestanley – Hi. I'm Ande. My name is pronounced On-dee. In 1999, I learned that my feelings over the years that something was a wee bit off in my family was ACTUALLY True. In my thirties, I accidentally discovered that I am an International, Stranger Adoption. Think adult woman locked in a restaurant handicapped stall, trembling, sobbing, dripping snot, wondering why her "mom" would consider a Fresh Choice an appropriate venue for confirming her suspicions. After returning home from that little humiliation, I began what I think of as The Great Paper Chase. This blog is about that chase. A little from the legal perspective, but primarily from the emotional and physical. Over the years, I managed to find a slew of clueless people, and a few well informed individuals, who helped me navigate applying for and receiving my paperwork. I encountered almost zero people able to help me with the arguably more important side of adoptee-dom. How do I cope with how all of this makes me FEEL? When I am feeling infantilized, what do I do? When I can hear my heart pounding in my ears and my head feels like it may explode into a hundred dangerous bone shards and a whole lot of squishy mess, how do I calm myself? Am I crazy for wanting my file, my original birth certificate, my proof of existence? How do I find the courage to open this damn envelope? Now that the envelope is open, what do all these squiggly lines actually mean?! Will I feel this guilt, fear, grief, shame, anger…forever?! I decided to start this blog as a way to explore the emotional and physical challenges of seeking our identities and adoption files, as part of community. I don't think of this as My blog. I think of The Adoption Files as Our blog. Our place to ask the questions, discuss the emotions, validate one another and plot the next steps in the journey. Along the way, I will share some of my experiences as a Late Discovery, International, Stranger Adoptee trying to make sense of the lies, the application forms, the attitudes and the consequences of reclaiming myself. I hope to hear from others as they apply for, receive or are denied thier paperwork, summon the courage to open those envelopes or emails, and read and reread the contents of those communications. I also hope to wheedle a few interviews with professionals in the legal and mental health and physical health communities who have valuable insights into how we, as Adopted people, can recognize the need for, implement and maintain healthy coping strategies so we can come through this process healthier and stronger than when we began. The goal is empowerment. The goal is also connection. Adoption life, what I think of as The In-Between, can be incredibly lonely. I have benefitted greatly in recent years from the discovery of this whole online world of Adoptees finding our voices and forming connections and sharing our stories. Every single one of them has helped me along the way, whether they know this is so or not. They amaze me every single day. If you are reading this, know that you are amazing. You are inspiring. You are not alone. We are United in more ways than we can imagine. Just one of those things that unite us is that we all have some form of paperwork, some absence of it, some document we are seeking. Now, let's talk about that paperwork.
    andestanley dice:

    I also want to say that this had to be an incredibly painful and difficult experience for you, Ms. Davis. Thank you for advocating for the child you adopted and for others

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