von Jessica Davis, American adoptive mother of Ugandan daughter, successfully returned to her Ugandan family; co-founder of Kugatta which brings families together who are impacted by Ugandan intercountry adoption.
Every year I think I will not cry and it will not hurt as deeply as it once did. But each time I see all that was almost permanently taken from Namata, the pain returns just as deep (if not deeper) than the first time when I realized what I had participated in — and what needed to be done. I still have extended family members who refuse to admit that reuniting her with her Ugandan family was the RIGHT and JUST thing to do.
There are many people that believe it is okay to take children from LOVING families if these families are poor, living in the “wrong” country, practicing the “wrong” religion, or for a number of other irrational reasons. It is incredible how much money, time and resources contributes to the separation of families who should never be separated in the first place.
I will never stop speaking out against the wrongs being perpetuated within the intercountry adoption system. I won’t stop fighting for those that have been exploited by this system and I will certainly never forget the amazing little girl that came into my life and taught me to do better. As much as I miss her, my heartache pales in comparison to the joy I feel seeing her home with her family and thriving.
We did everything “right”. We used a highly rated adoption agency, followed all of the proper protocols and procedures and reported everything that was wrong as we discovered it. In fact, even though it has been proven our adoption agency was corrupt, Namata’s paperwork was fabricated, the Ugandan judge was bribed, the embassy interview showed Namata’s mother did not understand what adoption was and we were not told this at the time, our adoption of Namata from Uganda was and still is considered LEGAL. What does this tell you about intercountry adoption?
Namata didn’t get to go home because it was the right and just thing to do. Serena’s rights being violated and Namata’s best interests ignored were irrelevant by those that should have cared. The reason Namata got to go home and be reunited with her family was because Adam and I refused to accept that this was all okay or “for the better”.
Countless families have been needlessly ripped apart via intercountry adoption just like Namata’s.
Rarely do I hear anyone express concern for these injustices or what has been lost, rather people use good intentions gone awry to ignore these realities and press on as if nothing wrong has occurred. If people won’t listen or can’t understand the problem at hand, maybe they will SEE it when they look at this family and realize all that was almost lost and there was literally NO reason for it at all.
Read Jessica’s last post: Does Justice or Accountability Happen in Illicit Adoptions?
4 Antworten auf „Pain of Loss and the Joy at Seeing her Reunified with her Family“
What a beautiful sad story. I’ve been saying the same thing since I adopted my daughters from China. I’m doing everything I can to find their family. I am ashamed I participated in their adoption but glad I have them to help find their family.
I am so glad that more information is coming out about the adoptions that are ripping families apart. I know we will never know 100% about all of the adoptions and the real facts about the families and the children. I wish we could. I do wonder if it is as harmful to assume or to let the children think that they were wrongly taken from their families who loved and wanted them as it was/is to have them assume that they were lovingly yet sadly given by their birth families for circumstances beyond their control (one child policy, family death, untimed pregnancy). Either circumstance may or may not be true for all the adoptees. So hard to say,” We don’t know” for all these year, but I would hold any guilt feelings until you know for sure, for both adoptees and adoptive parents.Eiher way is difficult. Adoption is about loss.
Wow, we need more people like Jessica and Adam. After all, a selfless heart mindset like they show, was actually supposed to be the intention that children need. Thank for sharing your story.