At ICAV, we invited members to share during National Adoption Awareness Month what they would like the public to know. Here’s another of what some of our members are happy to share to the public.
Something that is a deep part of me has clearly been pushed so far back into me that the words, “I’m adopted from India” gather as a lump in my throat. They hijack Harley because they recognise the girl who lived before she was Harley.
The words stop my breath and overwhelm my senses so much that my eyes fill with tears and I feel I cannot SPEAK.
This is foreign to me, as I know how to speak.
I know my story and I’ve said it many times without this reaction.
Only NOW, close to 30 years after my arrival, am I able to feel the weight of this story.
It’s heavy and I’m allowed to feel it.
I’m allowed to be in this place.
It was bound to happen since the story isn’t beautiful.
It’s only beautiful on the outside.
von Harley Place
I think that the first priority is to educate people who want to adopt, because there is a better way. Support the child to stay in their birth country, educate birth families that there is always another option, adoption is the last resort.
If adoption does occur adopting families should commit to searching for birth families or keeping in contact would be ideal.
Maintain a connection to culture is vital to our wellbeing.
von Gabbie Beckley